Polyamory Dating Sites

If you’re here I’m going to assume that not only are you polyamorous (or at least interested in polyamory), but are also looking to meet new people in this lifestyle. Below are the best dating sites I’ve come across for meeting not only polyamorists, but simply finding sites that offer profiles for couples. Even if you just want to find a threesome rather than a relationship, try joining these sites. My advice is to join a few at once and then only upgrade when you find one that has lots of quality local profiles and the features you’re seeking.

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Most readers here have likely already joined this site. It has more profiles of couples than any other dating site and it’s reach is worldwide. They offer all the bells and whistles such as video chat, member blogs, and chat rooms.  Polyamory Date is full of people looking for sex in general and is quite ‘spicy’, but even if you are looking for a poly relationship you’ve got to join this one because of all the couple profiles. Warning: lots of nudity inside!


Another good option is PolyDating.com, although their member base is smaller than PolyamoryDate. However, if you’re looking for more people who identify as polyamorous and are more interested in relationships than quick threesomes and group hookups then it’s probably the best one to check out.

On the flip side, if threesomes and meeting couples for naughty encounters is exactly what you’re looking for, then the following casual dating sites also offer couple profiles and are good places to join as well:


Oh happy day – a free dating site for polaymorists! Well, not quite. Okcupid isn’t specifically a polyamory personals site, but it sure does have a lot of people using it for this purpose. It’s a truly 100% free site so no reason not to create a profile here and find what you can find! You can’t create couple profiles exactly, but you can link to your partner(s) pretty easily and I’ve seen lots of poly couples do it this way.

Good Luck and Enjoy!

Tell us what you think! 7 Comments

  1. Richard Rivera

    April 16, 2018 at 11:56 am

    POLYAMORYDATE.COM is just AdultFriendFinder.com going by another name. 99% of the responses to our profile said they found us from viewing our profile on AFF. So, not really sure how many of these people are actually looking for poly dating or relationships. The number of cheating men who contacted us was ridiculous, to the point we’re looking to cancel our account and delete our profile.

    • Lola Page

      Lola Page

      April 30, 2018 at 5:15 pm

      Hi Richard,
      You’re right, PolyamoryDate uses AFF’s database – because it is the largest database of active couples profiles in the world. I’m sorry about all the replies you’ve gotten from cheating men! If I may make a suggestion: be sure to make it clear in your profile that you are polyamorous, and specifically looking for poly partners (and no cheating men.). I hope you’re able to make it work!

  2. Rosie Henderson

    April 23, 2018 at 6:12 pm

    Are there any that aren’t linked to Adultfriendfinder?

    • Lola Page

      Lola Page

      April 30, 2018 at 5:16 pm

      Hi Rosie,

      Of the 3 polyamory sites listed, only the first one uses Adult Friend Finder’s database of couples and singles. The other 2 have nothing to do with AFF.

  3. Jonathan

    June 11, 2018 at 10:06 pm

    I’ve been on and off OkCupid for over 8 years, and it is in NO WAY friendly to poly singles or couples. It’s now just a Tinder replica that doesn’t allow any communication to be seen until both parties “like” each other in the stupid swipe game. Pure ad spam, and the majority of the users they show have been inactive for months or even years. It’s 10pm and there are a whopping 4 women online there as I write this.

    • Tez B

      October 17, 2018 at 7:42 am

      Yes, it’s really gone downhill and become hugely less user-friendly. But is there any alternative that’s not full of scammers?

  4. Input Output

    August 10, 2019 at 7:59 pm

    In everyone’s experience, is paying for some level of PolyamoryDate (which is just AFF) the only way to have a chance at actually meeting some other people?

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