As polyamory and open relationships are gaining momentum, more sites are popping up which cater to poly singles seeking love and sex. Read on to get the low down on your options…
Polyamory Date : Go Big or Go Home
Polyamory Date is probably the largest of all the polyamrous dating sites out there. It shares a backend and database with a very large and long-running adult dating site, which means there are more possible partners at PolyamoryDate than at the other sites combined. It’s great because they’ve always allowed couple profiles, which is the problem with other sex dating sites that attempt to market to poly people. If you’re looking to take things slow you’re better off with one of the sites below though because this website is pretty racy, allowing full nudity and steamy member videos. This is for those seeking casual hookups and threesomes or someone to engage in a no-strings sexual relationship on the side. But hey, you never know what can happen when you find that chemistry! Also, they have free chat and member videos with the basic membership, so it can be a fun place just to hang out between dates.
Poly Dating : A Promising Start
This one is new to the poly dating scene and thus has one major drawback. The biggest problem with Poly Dating at the moment, is that they simply don’t have enough couples profiles to guarantee any kind of success, although there are lots of singles. However, I still went ahead and created a profile to check it out and noticed that there are more couple profiles every day so it seems to be catching on. It doesn’t offer all the features of PolyamoryDate such as video, and it’s much more tame in terms of content. No nudity here, which is likely preferable to many people seeking a more serious love connection. At any rate, it’s worth creating a free profile just to see who’s in your area, and if you are a couple seeking a third this could be a very good option indeed.
Poly Matchmaker : Commited to Non-commitment
This site had a design overhaul recently and looks better than ever. However, there are a few problems that you should know about before joining. There’s a very lengthy sign-up process before being able to do a simple search of local members. This is not fun if you then find out there aren’t many members where you live. With less than 30,000 members total, you’re likely to be disappointed. Also, they don’t offer couple profiles, but thankfully you can at least add a link to your partner’s profile. I know some couples would prefer to manage just one account though, especially since they will now have to pay two subscription fees! And the last issue is that they only accept payment though PayPal. Aside from these problems, the site is very good in that it is committed to serving the polyamory community specifically.
Another option for polyamorists could be OKcupid, which you can read about in my post here: Polyamory on OKcupid. Although it’s not specifically for polyamory, it seems popular enough with those in this lifestyle and might be worth a shot, considering it’s free.
Poly Sites I Do Not Recommend…
Polyamorous Passions is a free social network for poly singles and couples but prepare to find little to NO profiles, and lots of annoying advertisements. I found no profiles at all where I live, and I’m in one of the largest north american cities. It’s also part of a larger network of sites, so the people you do find are likely not poly at all. Love Many is another poly dating site you’ll come across in the search results but they also have had problems populating their database after moving from an independent site to becoming a front for a general database that has virtually no poly people, and now back to an independent site. I have no idea what happened to their existing members throughout this shuffle!