Looking for threesome ideas?
Probably the world’s most popular fantasy is the threesome. Men, women, transgender, and nonbinary people all report threesomes being common fantasies.
Having sex with more than one person at the same time adds a volt of naughty taboo to fun fantasies with variety, novelty, and a few nerves.
However, practical considerations sometimes mean a threesome idea doesn’t always play out the way it does in our minds. Making threesome positions work and vetting mixed emotions of participants can be tricky.
Approaching your lovers with a variety of threesome ideas can put the focus on the fun.
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26 Ideas for a Threesome
1. Start with Massage
You got to start somewhere. You can start with massage, or have a warm-up only session focusing on massage. What’s the rush? Enjoy exploring new and familiar bodies in a sensual, unhurried way.
Massage takes the pressure of diving in too quickly, and lets bodies and minds warm up and get acquainted.
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2. Plan a Pajama Party
Another great warm-up threesome idea is to have a pajama party, or the “Netflix and chill threesome.”
Come comfy and keep the focus on snuggling together in a fuzzy blanket, with hot chocolate or mulled wine and a favorite binge series. Next time, do season two in fewer pajamas—lingerie and thongs, and see where it leads.
3. Host Icebreaker Games
There’s a reason so many hot memories start with Strip Poker of Spin the Bottle. Play a few warm-up games that get participants to open up and get naked.
Read: 5 Tips for Undressing a Woman before Sex
4. Dirty Dance
Dances have long been foreplay for lovers. Remember “Careless Whisper” and all that swaying around? No reason it can’t be for three.
hot and bothered by grinding and twerking the night away with all three of you racing for the after party.
5. Experiment with Sensation Play
Sensation play is a great threesome idea. It slows things down and extends the exploratory phase so you can all spend a long time lingering, experimenting, and touching.
Sensation play involves trying different kinds of touches just to experience them, and other sensations, too—hot and cold, light and dark, jazz and rap. Think about ways to incorporate touch, taste, sound. Think about strawberries, silk, gooey lube, brushing hair, and more.
Read: Sensation Play Ideas for Kinky Couples
6. Try Threesome Roleplay
A great threesome idea is roleplay. Take fuel from your actual fantasies.
Maybe you and nurse Betty are about to go at it when you’re caught by the doctor? Maybe you are spying on your sister trying on clothes, and the store staff brings her a new bathing suit to try, then suggests she model it for him? You can re-enact your favorite cinema moments or classic porn scenes.
Read: Kinky Threesome Roleplay Ideas
7. Take Turns Watching
Watching others make love is one of the big thrills of a threesome. So take turns sitting out, so you can relax and take in an eyeful.
8. Experiment with BDSM
Whether you’re into wild fetishes, or like to keep things simple, there’s something for everyone on the BDSM spectrum.
Read: How to Meet People Into BDSM
9. Teach Each Other
It can be so hot to learn and unlearn everything we need to know all over again.
Show your lover how your other lover likes to be undressed and devoured. Teach a new third how your husband likes to fuck your mouth.
10. Try Various Positions
Threesome sex positions can be complicated—where do all those legs go? But there are so many more possibilities too.
Have fun sessions where you try ten positions before dissolving into orgasms and giggles.
Read: 7 FFM Threesome Positions Women Love
11. Make a Naughty Video
It can be super hot to make a video and watch it, and when there are three of you, there are extra hands for filming. Take turns playing director.
If you’re not sure whether a video should exist, you can still use this threesome idea and just delete the video after you’re all done.
12. Add Pegging
Add a little strap-on dildo fun to the mix. Enjoy woman-on-woman strap-on pegging, or hers on his.
Read: How to Prepare for Pegging
13. Double the Pleasure
Classic threesome ideas in porn always focus on double penetration. Use a strap-on for FFM threeways, or two cocks for MFM.
Read: How Dildos Can Enhance Threesome Sex
14. Get Wet and Messy
Play with lubes, oils, food, you name it. A wrestling match with slipping and sliding can be a tactile and visual threesome extravaganza.
Read: 10 Wet Sex Ideas: Get Messy
15. Exert Primal Energy
If you’ve been curious about the primal kink and want to get back to nature, find some wilderness privacy and let the games begin.
Primal sex is about hunting, catching, competition, dominating, scratching and being natural and free. Take it only as far as you want to go.
16. Show Off Your Hotwives
A great foreplay idea for a threesome is to go out with your arm candy, and let the world watch as all three of you giggle and flirt.
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17. Masturbate Together
Take a cue from teen boy circle jerks. All of you can masturbate and dirty talk and watch each other.
18. Put One in the Hot Seat
Focus on one participant, whoever draws the hot seat from a hat. All the attention will be showered on that person on that occasion.
19. Plan a Lunch Date
Spice up a dull work day by planning a threeway lunch date at home.
20. Have a Quickie Trio
Who says a threesome has to be long, or that a quickie is for two? Plan a fifteen-minute tryst. Rushed, hurried, horny sex for three can be an exhilarating threesome idea.
Read: Quickie Benefits for Men
21. Treat Yourselves
Go all out with lux champagne, French lingerie, and silver candlesticks. Jazz, chocolates, orchids, and an Art Deco boudoir filled with showgirls.
22. Meet at a Hotel
There’s something about meeting up in a hotel for sex. Why not have a threesome there, just because?
23. Get Dirty at the Beach
Sex in the sun, sex outside, sex in the ocean, sex with piña coladas flowing. After watching all the brawn and beauty, find a remote enclave and a beach towel, or fool around all three of you in the sunset waves.
24. Twist the Night Away
Get sweaty and giggly with a game of old fashioned Twister. We all know this was a sex game, so go for it.
25. Take Your Threesome on the Road
Limo sex can go with fun role plays for excessive 80s parties or graduation fantasies—if that’s not your flavor, the back of the pick-up truck is another classic. Just upgrade to three.
26. Sex it Up at Swinger Parties
Part of the fun of swinging is the social participation. You go to sex-minded parties, you get dressed up, you meet people.
Some kink or group sex parties are not swinger specific. Can’t find any sex parties? Check out kink or poly community boards online and keep your ears open—word eventually gets around.
Read: How to Find Group Sex Parties and Events
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