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How to Find Group Sex Parties and Events

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Are you an adventurous sexual soul who wants to experience a group sex party, but you don’t know where to find one?

I promise you that group sex parties and events exist—you just need to know where to look!

What Is a Group Sex Party?

A group sex party is exactly what it sounds like, BUT they have to be experienced with consent, protocol, and boundaries, or else it’s some drunken adult hooliganism, and that’s NOT what we promote here.

In my mind, a foursome is… four people having sex, natch. And an orgy is FIVE OR MORE people all having sexual interaction, generally assumed to at least consist of oral sex, usually penetrative sex as well, plus whatever other goodies you all want to add on! And a group sex party would have five or more, hopefully eight or ten people, where all folks are fucking or fucking around.

Read: Tips for Your First Group Sex Experience

So, how do you HAVE a group sex party, or have fun at one? Well, there’s more than one way to get to any paradise on earth, but there are tried and true methods and paths to getting to the popular places!

There are various groups to find in the world of sex, so it should stand to reason that there are various sex parties you can find yourself at. Let’s explore!

How to Find a Group Sex Party or Event

Attend Sex Clubs

Sex clubs are kind of the ground floor for many people when it comes to discovering group sex parties.

Most metropolitan cities have a sex club of some sort, even if it goes out of business in a few years because the laws are so hypocritical, and social stigma is blech, but I digress! It’s still LEGAL, so forget all the slut-shaming nonsense, and take a date or friends to a sex club to have an experience inside a group sex party!

Read: How to Practice Safe Sex in Group Play

You just need to be of age, have ID, and know how to communicate boundaries and request consent from multiple people. At the very minimum.

Talk, dance, mingle—find people you vibe with—and respectfully wrangle five people together who want to all play, and then set it off! Play Spin the Bottle or ‘Truth or Dare if you’re really nervous, or begin touching each other slowly. There are many ways to get there, but start slow with collective consent.

Read: Group Sex Rules for Orgy Etiquette

Find Private Group Sex Parties on Message Boards

Some smaller towns might not have the luxury of a sex club for group sex parties, but please don’t be fooled into thinking they don’t still happen in small towns, ha ha!

In this day and age, technology is used to gather all kinds of groups in all kinds of fun places, so think of it like a fuck flashmob, if you are all THAT adventurous and want to have some kind of collegiate romp in the woods or some park at night with a groups of friends.

Get on a message board or private group chat and figure out the time, place, and the people who are going to be invited. Those are the main elements, and without those, there’s no group sex party!

On the internet, you can find endless places and people who are involved in the  group sex lifestyle, You can wait until you find the right rabbit hole or dig your own!

Read: How To Find Group Sex Online

Travel to Explore the Group Sex Lifestyle

Speaking of worldwide, you don’t have to only use the internet to find local people, you can find the local people directly if you have the money to TRAVEL to all the sex clubs this world has to offer!

Read: BDSM Travel Guide for Kinky Vacations

Jamaica has Hedonism, where some of my favorite friends in life just came back from, and a place I really hope to get my ass to soon enough! Group sex happens on a regular basis at a place like Hedonism, and parties are structured to help facilitate and foster the community connections to encourage friendly fucking with folks!

It doesn’t take much in common, besides attraction and basic consensual communication. Amsterdam, Miami, San Francisco, Abu Dhabi, Brazil, Thailand, Paris… there’s dozens of cities across this world with all kinds of unique group sex party cultures for you to discover.

BUT, as I said, there are *levels* to these places, so it definitely will cost money to find them and get off in them, but it’s possible. Some people into swinging call it The Lifestyle!

Read: How to Find Swinger Couples

Host Your Own

If all else fails when it comes to finding a sex party, take a DIY approach! If you build it, they will come/cum! All you need for the basics is a place to party with five or more sexually-willing people, a time to unite, and a spirit of rebellion! You can rent out a club for your group sex party, you could use your own place, you could take everyone on a trip to Las Vegas—there are options! Doing it yourself requires more responsibility, yet it’s not impossible.

Read: Sex Parties: How Safe Is Necessary?

Cover the necessities like condoms, safe sex accessories, toys, clean sheets and blankets, lube and more lube, healthy snacks and drinks (food is helpful to nourish bodies, or use in sex scenes, LOL!) And it’s best to have some sexy, funky dancey music. There are a thousand roads to paradise, baby… just make sure you got four plus seats in the Sexmobile as you drive off into the group sex party sunset!

Orgies for everybody,
Addi “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart

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