Looking for swinger date ideas?
Dating is part of the fun for couples in the swinging lifestyle. Rekindling the joy, flirtation, and social aspects of dating and sharing all of that with your own partner is one of the most fun parts of non-monogamy and swinging.
There are lots of fun swinger date ideas to try. Double dating for swinging couples is all about meeting other swingers, getting to know them, flirting, and getting comfortable.
Just like dating one on one, swinger couple dates lets couples get acquainted and flirt and try out the chemistry. Swinging is not just about sex—it’s also about dating and fun social activities with other couples who are interested in non-monogamous sex.
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13 Swinger Dates for Fun and Flirtation
Before couples get to the sex, or to enjoy other activities together, there are all kinds of dating ideas for those in swinger relationships.
1. Brunch Date for Four
Going for brunch with another swinging couple is a low-key way to connect and chat and enjoy social interaction and company without the expectation of going off for sex right away.
Like any one on one brunch date, swinging couples brunches give daters a chance to meet and get to know each other out and about in their town. A popular diner or trendy new brunch spot make for a relaxed Sunday date, with pancakes and mojitos just the ticket to great conversation!
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2. Swinger Movie Night
The cinema is classic date night, and even more fun for four than for two! Swinger dating at the movies gives everyone a chance to relax before any in-depth conversation, and then talking about the movie after over coffee or drinks can reveal a lot about each of your personalities.
Movie night for swinger dating also provides delicious darkness and atmosphere for make-out sessions when you’re at that stage of the game!
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3. Netflix and Chill Night
Just like movie night, but at home, so there can be lots of flirting, snuggling, hand holding and lounging. Make it cozy with tea and snacks and some low-lit lamps, and choose a movie or binge watch the winter into the past.
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4. Glow-in-the-Dark Bowling
Bowling is the perfect way for swinging couples to date. The dynamic allows for relaxing, mixing, walking around, enjoying a beer or snacks, and wearing your favorite jeans.
Swinger dates with moderate activity that people of all skill levels can enjoy, mixed up with a bit of friendly couples competition is just right. Glow in the dark bowling alleys can add a bit of pizzazz if your city has one.
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5. Haunted House or Escape Room
Tacky thrill museums with adrenaline scares are a fun way to amp up the electricity. Escape room style activities are even better—they work really well for swinging couples because most escape room and mystery game events require more than two.
Putting all of your noggins together to figure out the clues builds trust, intimacy, and lets you all play.
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6. Art Gallery or Art Museum
Checking out the Picasso and Monet on exhibition with another couple is a perfect swinging date.
Gallery dates are a chance to dress up a bit to show off what you’ve got while still remaining casual. Seeing how other people respond to art and the discussions that follow are great ways to get acquainted.
7. Burlesque Show
If there are any burlesque clubs or travelling burlesque acts coming through your town, nab the opportunity to enjoy a show with another swinging couple for a date.
Burlesque is saucy and sex friendly, with a bit of comedy and other kinds of performance and entertainment. Swinger dates will find the atmosphere comfortable for flirting and the shows are a lot of fun.
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8. Cooking Class
Swinger dates for foodies can be more hands on than just going to a restaurant. Choose something that none of you have any experience with at all—it could be baking pies from scratch, Indian spice mixing, vegan cookery, stone grilling, or making sushi at home.
Building your repertoire and sharing experiences with other swinging couples makes memories to savor later.
9. Winter Wonderland
Make the most of the worst weather by enjoying it with other swinging couples. Going tobogganing with the dogs can be a blast. Visit an ice sculpture exhibition or go cross country skiing.
10. Ferris Wheel
When was the last time you were on a Ferris wheel? Check out a local fair or find a big wheel that overlooks a whole city for a spectacular view.
Enjoy touching and flirting and kissing at your own pace, and dive in when you’re ready!
13. Live Music Venue
Experience new music with other swingers for the ultimate swinging date.
Switch things up by trying an infamous local dive with legendary roots acts, or enjoy a tiny act at an upscale club near the airport. A larger concert that lends itself to outdoor grass seating is an invitation to snuggling and touching.
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12. A Drive in the Country
Pack a picnic basket with cheerful submarine sandwiches, snacks like nuts and fruits, and coconut water and head out to the old make-out hills to ignite new sparks. Stop to pick apples or strawberries at a pick-your-own farm, or at a roadside market on the way home.
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