Polyamory: Sex Drive and Stamina

No-Low Libido

Believe it or not, I don’t just sit here and blog because I want attention. As a multi-slasher (Poly/Horndog/Chatterbox/Professional Writer) my bosses count on me to bring my personal experience and perspective to topics as assigned. This assignment was an odd one because my perspective is that I have no experience with it.

I was asked to write about “how to get my lady in the mood when her libido is low”. Once again, for context, I’m the secondary partner in a successful poly relationship. We’re friends with plenty of other poly couples, for play and hang-time, and let me swear on the record that not once have these women ever suffered a low libido. For reals.

There’s a chicken/egg thing going on:

are highly-sexed women drawn to a polyamorous lifestyle, or does the sexual freedom a polyamorous lifestyle offers make women more highly-sexed?

Who cares. As far as I’m concerned, it’s just one more reason why polys are so happy.

Let me assure you this isn’t a skewed male fantasy, or “just another expectation men have of women” (a feminist friend once suggested so). The guys in this story are physically incapable of keeping up. This is something we’ve discussed amongst ourselves, to great laughter. Ladies, we can’t always manage Round 2 immediately!

And while I’m at it, the intensity unleashed by sexual freedom does more than keep libidinous engines running: These polygirls can cum on a hair-trigger, endlessly; squirt, endlessly; do anything that requires sex-drive and stamina, endlessly.

(Don’t get me wrong – if she has the barfs, of course all bets are off. Although, even then…)

I’ve hijacked this post – which should have been a “Handy Tips to Get Her in the Mood” chart – and instead I once more make the pitch that the glories of a sexually-open, deeply loving relationship with more than one partner is a solid path to happiness. Because when I think about it, I have had experience with women whose libidos would take a nosedive. Each of those cases occurred when I was living in monogamous relationships. Go figure.

Otherwise, if she hasn’t already tried one, butt-plugs can spice things up.

Let Love Rule!

What cures can you offer up for low-level libidos?

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