Tips & Advice

Pegging Tips for Polyamorous Partners

Man's Hands Grabbing Satin Sheet

Anal sex is a common fantasy for many lovers. While most guys have a driving desire to engage in anal sex with a woman, just as many of you are discovering the thrill of taking a pounding yourself. And it can be powerfully erotic for a woman to experience penetrating a man.

Pegging can be part of BDSM exploration and incorporated into role-play and medical fetishes. Sissification and female domination are other kinks that can result in you getting your ass penetrated. Or it can simply be an extension of mutual pleasure and lovemaking.

Your ass is loaded with nerve endings, and you have a prostate just inside that responds with intense pleasure to stimulation.

Don’t have a pegging partner yet? Here’s a list of the best pegging dating sites over at Kink Lovers.

Here’s what you need to know about pegging to make your experience something you’ll never forget.

What exactly is pegging?

Pegging was a term invented by readers and sex-advice columnist Dan Savage when he realized there was no word to describe the sexual act of a woman penetrating a man.

While there are many ways to penetrate a man’s ass—fingers, butt plug, anal dildo, tongue—pegging refers specifically to a woman wearing a strap-on dildo and fucking you.

“Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating his anus with a strap-on dildo,” is how Wikipedia describes it.

Pegging can be kinky or vanilla.

Switching up the penetration roles of male and female can be powerfully exciting as part of many domination and submission, gender bending, and sissification or sissy boy kinks. It can be part of anal training, sadomasochism, or a million others from role play to bondage to sensation play.

But it isn’t necessarily kinky. There is nothing particularly uncommon or extreme about anal sex. Most people find anal stimulation pleasurable, and men have even more pleasure centers in their ass than women do with the prostate gland responding eagerly to stimulation. Pegging is just another way to stimulate the nerves in a man’s normal anatomy, so you don’t have to be kinky to enjoy it.

Find the right strap-on and harness for her, and you.

She can fuck your ass with a butt plug or a dildo designed for anal sex, with her fingers, or her tongue. But pegging specifically refers to her wearing a strap-on.

She’ll want to wear a harness that fits her properly, and you’ll want a dildo made for anal sex—something flared on the bottom or one that has “balls” that are designed to fit into a harness and into your ass without getting sucked inside. Sex store workers are always happy to help when choosing what’s right for you.

The dildo itself matters too. Most men will want an average-sized cock, not a specialty King Kong dick. You might want to work your way up to a super-sized peg, but not necessarily. Start small.

See: 4 Essential Strap-On Tips for Beginners

Remember: lube, lube, lube.

The way to play is slippery when wet. Penetration is easier and more pleasurable with lots of lube. Put lube around your ass hole and on the dildo at the start and have her add more periodically to keep things moist and easy. Lubrication makes anal sex a lot safer too, helping you avoid tears that can invite bacteria into your bloodstream.

Some lubes are made for anal sex, so you might want to try those. Silicone lubes are feather light and silky smooth, and longer lasting than water-based ones, but they can degrade the surface of your sex toys. Research and experiment to find the one best suited to your needs, or keep a variety on hand.

Do you have experience with pegging, or fantasize about trying it? Please share!

Tell us what you think!

guest
0 Comments
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
To Top