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5 Threesome Tips to Keep Everyone Involved

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You think the hardest part of a threesome is getting everyone naked in the same room at the same time with the same level of consent and intent? Think again!

It gets deeper than that. Keeping everything and everyone on the same page during a threesome is the real challenge.

In the mysterious realms of sexuality there is a damn near infinite amount of unspeakable, unknowable, intangible phenomena happening not only between the three people involved, but also within each individual.

It’s not just about getting everyone on the same bed with the same sexy desires for threesome fun. There’s a challenge involved with maintaining everyone’s chemistry to the point where the desires and passions do not evaporate, and the trust and connection stays strong and balanced throughout the experience.

One of the worst things that can happen is a failure to launch to or land on Planet Pleasure just because of something you didn’t do to keep everyone involved.

5 Tips to Keep Everyone Connected in a Threesome

1. Keep Communication Flowing

Talk to each other before, during, and after it all goes down. The best you can, without spoiling any sexy fun plans or what not, please try to share some words and thoughts and discuss boundaries.

Few things fuck up a threesome more than being in the middle of the action when someone tries to do something that nobody discussed, leading to a sad and uncomfortable encounter. This can all be avoided if you all had a good little chat with each other before the fun starts! A couple texts might do it, but that might not be enough. Some emails, some calls, a good five minute talk if nothing else!

2. Aim to Do Everything you Desire

Nobody can predict the future and know exactly what will happen in the entire affair between all three people, but if you say you want to have a double blowjob, ask for one in the moment of truth! Usually there’s at least one or two (or five!) things that people dream of trying and doing in a threesome.

Let your lovers know about it, and ask if they want to do it with you. And then, when you’re in the bed or pool or whatever sexy place you choose, alternate between doing one thing you want, one thing your lover wants, and one thing your other lover wants… then do the next thing on the list. Easy peasy sleazy freaky!

3. Take It Slow, but Not too Slow

Nothing breaks the threesome apart more than someone who is FAR too eager to do things, someone already naked with their hard dick in their hand while the other two people are just taking off their first socks.

Everyone moving at a similar pace is a great way to keep everyone involved and no one left out, that’s for sure. To do this, you can either set the pace if you are host, or observe body language and other nonverbal messages to stay on track with everyone else. If you think things are going off the rails, speak up without judgement.

4. Make Sure Everyone Is Safe

ONE SURE WAY to disconnect an individual from the threesome: put them in a situation where they have no condom or protection for the sexual encounter that is about to be shared! If one person is not following safety protocol and sexual respect for the others, that is a guaranteed cut-off situation and could send the entire scene up in smoke.

If you are hosting, have lots of protection available, from condoms to sanitizer to towels. If you’re going somewhere, it’s always a good idea to pack anything you think you might need or want, just in case.

5. Try Something Simultaneously

Of course, there’s no threesome rules or regulations as to what moves and intimate choices you use to connect with your partners. But if there’s one thing you want to do to make sure you all feel connected, try a long, three-way hug. If you want to make a lovely moment of intimate connection, have a three-way kiss. And if you want to take the threesome to the super supreme level, try a double penetration scenario involving all three people! This is a solid certification that all parties involved will be paying attention, trust me.

So these are just a few suggestions to keep you in touch during a threesome, so that your desire doesn’t drift, your jealousy doesn’t jump, and your attention doesn’t abandon you.

Want more ideas for keeping everyone in a threesome involved? Read Threesome Tips’ article: How to Focus Your Threesome So No One Feels Left Out

What’s your super glue that keeps a threesome connected?

Love,
Adhimu Stewart

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