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Threesome Rules for Poly Couples

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So you and your primary partner are venturing into the realm of threesomes. You’re not in a triad relationship and you’re looking for some no strings fun. It may be easy to find a willing third person, but there can be complications – complications that arise from not having rules set out before you take the plunge.

Here are some basic threesome rules to get it right the first time and to make sure there’s a second!

Polyamorous Threesome Rules

1. Establish Boundaries

Ladies, how comfortable are you with your man going down on another woman? How about kissing intimately or watching your man give another woman his full attention while you “sit out”?

Guys, are you sure you don’t mind that guy having his way with your woman? Can he really do whatever he wants?

I recommend as a couple that you discuss in detail your limits – what you and your partner are comfortable with and “allowed” to do. Trust me, this prevents many problems from arising. Clear open communication is the key to a rewarding and satisfying threesome.

2. Be Fair

No one likes to be left out, sitting on the sidelines watching the fun. Too much attention and action between only two of three lovers will cause a lot of heartache. This in turn can lead to jealousy, fear, anxiety, or anger – feelings that don’t belong in the sack, you know? So share the love as equally as possible and the results will surely be fantastic for all involved.

Interested in some tips for keeping all parties involved? Check out these Threesome Positions Women Love and 4 Raunchy Positions for MMF Threesomes.

3. Be Safe

Condoms are a necessity, folks. If you’re in a FFM situation, use different condoms for each woman. Consider dental dams for male to female oral sex. If at all possible, ask your third if she has an existing STD. These precautions will make your experience more fun, as you will have peace of mind while practicing safe sex.

4. Leave, Please!

Sleepovers can lead to a lot of trouble. A threesome is not the same as a triad relationship. The goal is to have fun here, not to fall in love. There’s no need for that level of intimacy, so politely explain your stance on this before the fun gets started. Once you’ve all enjoyed what you set out to do, it’s time for you and your primary partner to bliss out – alone!

Still looking for your third? Check out our list of the best Threesome Dating Sites for Couples.

Do you and your poly partner enjoy threesomes in between triad relationships?

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