Swingers often have an opportunity to sit back and watch, be a voyeur to their sexy surroundings.
It’s a good idea to understand the basics of being a proper-mannered swinger voyeur, someone who doesn’t make anyone feel uncomfortable or creeped out while sitting on the sidelines.
Swinger voyeur etiquette might be basic knowledge to some of you, but you can never put enough practice into being a better person at a sexy gathering.
I went to a party full of swingers and hot sexy couples recently, a regular event, and I was STILL practicing how to be a better swinger voyeur and supportive sexy friend.
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10 Things Swinger Voyeurs Should Know
Here are some tips on how to enjoy voyeurism in the swinger lifestyle.
1. Most Swingers Enjoy Watching and Being Watched
The term “fuck-me eyes” is very much alive and well in swingers party culture. Being a voyeur is encouraged, especially if you know how to look with sex, fun, respect, passion AND patience in your eyes.
Swingers often like others quietly watching them fuck and have fun, and you shouldn’t feel shy about sharing your sexuality. If you’re respectfully watching (from a distance of six feet or so) and offering something to watch for other voyeurs, you will be happily respected and invited to keep coming to the party.
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2. Watching Your Own Partner Have Sex Is Part of the Fun
Share and share alike! When you feel comfortable and ready to share partners, don’t be shy about reaching out to the person or people you are attracted to, to spark some sexual sharing.
Watching your partner have fun with someone you’ve never met before can add a wonderful new layer of trust and exploration to the relationship. You’d be surprised how much it can rev up your sex life when they return, after enjoying hot sexy times with someone else while you watched.
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3. New Swingers Can Ease in by Starting with Voyeurism
There is no pressure to fuck at a healthy and mature swingers party, so you can easily just be voyeurs all you want until you feel ready to dive in. Watching is the best way to learn—standing back and kindly viewing the proceedings without interfering.
Take it slow and just observe for the first few swingers parties you go to if you feel like it. Very often, couples will be voyeurs for the whole party, then go home and fuck like crazy. Try that!
Read: How to Introduce Your Partner to Swinging
4. Some in the Swinger Lifestyle Remain Voyeurs Only
Don’t worry too much if you’re not the type to really push yourself to fuck in public. Some people are notorious for being voyeurs, some people are cucks, some people are bottoms, some are switches… there are no limits to the possibilities you can explore in The Lifestyle.
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But, if you feel like only watching the sexiness, you are free to do so. Let it be known!
5. Make Sure Your Voyeurism Is Always Consensual
Consent is essential and crucial to being a swinger voyeur. There are unspoken but very clear ways to observe and know when others are happy you’re looking at them, especially in a a sexual context! And there are many clear and obvious signs when others are NOT happy.
Read the signs. Ask if you need to, or if you are confused and unsure. Check if your voyeurism is cool. Move on immediately and respectfully if it is not.
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6. Ensure Your Voyeurism is in Line with Party or Club Rules
Some places do not allow voyeurism in every sex room that is available. I know one swinger club that has a VIP room with closed doors so that nobody can go in and watch.
Some people really don’t like to be watched while fucking, but they like to fuck in public places with other people fucking around them. Respect this nuanced desire.
Some nights, you will want to fuck your partner a whole bunch but not want anyone else to watch closely or join in. Other nights, you’ll just want your partner to fuck their partner beside you, respectfully.
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7. Be Respectful, Don’t Ogle or Be a Creep
Back off if someone says to back off! There should never be a need to be told twice to stop watching a couple fucking. Not backing off will get you very close to, if not immediately, kicked out of a swingers party.
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8. Lucky Voyeurs Are Sometimes Asked to Join
For the good person who watches from a proper distance and gives off a good vibe, they are very often invited to JOIN the swingers fun and have more sexy times along with everyone in action!
Invitations are the BEST part of being a voyeur, and you never know when they will happen. Just don’t be a swinger voyeur for that reason alone. Watch because you love watching. But if you do play your cards right, then it will happen more times than you can imagine!
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9. The Internet Provides Vast Options for Swinger Voyeurs
Use all the search engines you trust to find places that local swingers gather, where you can be a swinger voyeur if you choose. There are swingers parties and clubs, private swinger events, and swinger meetups. The internet never stops being a resource for voyeuristic naughtiness!
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10. Men Who Prefer the Voyeur Role May Enjoy Hotwifing
You never know, you might find yourself being a permanent voyeur, and watching your partner get ravaged and ravished by all the amazing friends you meet in the swingers community!
Hotwifing is a fun option to explore if it fits the dynamic of your relationship, and who knows what kind of fun you’ll get into while you take your voyeur journey!
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