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How to Join a Couple for a Threesome

Three Black Friends Smiling

So, grasshopper. Am I really supposed to open the box of tricks and unlock the secret that offers a golden ticket to Pleasureville? I will do my best to share some of the slick suggestions and luscious life hacks that have helped me find myself as the middle of a threesome.

First, I must stress a very important point: there is no one way that threesomes come together, so there is no one way for a single person to join a threesome.

We are in the realm of the courageous and the courteous, and we are working with the Sophia Loren Formula: 50% is what you got and 50% is what people think you got!

5 Tips for Joining a Couple for a Threesome

1. Connect First through Conversation

I don’t know how many threesomes I’ve been in that started off with a few funny jokes about life, love and sex as well as the current environment we share. If a couple is looking for the right third person to join them, it’s very important for you to set an example of being someone mentally compatible with them before possibly being physical.

Some threesomes have started with just a mention of the same movie star that we both admire! You never know what will be the spark that evolves into two people admiring a third.

If you are still looking to meet couples, take a look at Couples Dating Sites: Find a Couple or Third.

2. Offer a Couples Massage

A number of threesomes have been offered to me because I used to do massages at a local sex club, but I was often on the clock and couldn’t take them up on it. But I still learned that, whether before or after some people playing with sex, most people are very open to a massage.

Being generous by helping others relax in a sexy environment or comfortable private situation might be the right oil that greases the gears of a hot threesome. Be open to giving massages to both parties, no matter who. That surely helps. I’ve massaged a hairy back to be with a beautiful woman, and I was happy when it was all over!

For massage tips, read about a simple 3 Step Erotic Massage.

3. Bring Sex Toys

There are many other sex toys that can really help spread the love and open the possibilities—strap-ons, ropes, floggers, double-ended dildos, vibrators, nipple clamps. You never know what toy might be the thing that inspires the idea to start a threesome up.

Showing up with toys that are clean and fun is a great way to explore kinks in a group, but keep a playful attitude. Being wise in the use of gear and props is also very important—don’t bring a complex BDSM device to a first time event unless the assembly is part of the foreplay, ha ha.

4. Offer One Sexual Specialty

I’ve been a sexy third wheel a few times at sex parties when I’ve said, “Hey, can I just eat pussy?” to one or two participants. This is a very valid threesome, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! You don’t always have to fuck, that’s for damn sure. I have had great times just eating two people’s pussies and letting that go on for a half hour or more.

Focused threesomes like that can really take the pressure off, more than you think. Getting creative and offering things beyond just intercourse will broadens one’s horizons in a threesome, trust me.

5. Encourage Sexual Play from the Sidelines

If you are a person on the sidelines of what begins as a hot sex scene of two, and you are just the right distance away, not too loud or too quiet, wearing the perfect amount of clothing, and conducting yourself like a civilized individual, the miraculous can happen.

You can be invited into a sexy twosome just by being happy for their happiness! I’ve had someone say, “You want to come play with us?” from just chilling and commenting, “That’s beautiful! You two are gorgeous!”

A couple has to want it, of course, but if they are looking for a third and you play your cards right… then it’s game on, grasshopper! Jump on in and begin turning those happy words into happy actions!

Have you joined a couple for a threesome? What tips would you add?

Love,
Addi Stewart

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