Attending a swingers party but not sure what to wear? Get ready to dress for swinging success.
So, you’ve been invited to a swingers party, and you don’t want to be a wallflower. This is a wonderful opportunity for you to entertain with your outfit, and be a visual appetizer before the main course of wanton reckless debauchery.
Just as there are rules, limits, and boundaries for sexual activities at any civilized swingers party, there will also be rules, limits, and boundaries for the dress code. So please, aim for the sweet spot and dress accordingly.
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Swinger Clothing Options
You may get away with showing up to a Halloween party in a t-shirt and jeans, but prepare to be disappointed in yourself if you attend a swingers party that you KNOW you could have and should have dressed properly for but didn’t because you were too lazy, too uninformed, or too self-absorbed.
It’s wonderful to enhance the already elevated mood of the event with a dazzling outfit that attracts more attention and affection than a birthday suit would, and to also participate in the festivities that are extracurricular and unexpected.
You never know what kind of further fun will be had before the clothes come off at a swingers party, so it’s wise to want to do both parts of the event—the foreplay in the funky clothes and the fucking in the nude.
And then you can dress up again before you do the Walk of Pride out the door and into the night!
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What to Wear to a Swingers Club or Party
Here are eight tips for what to wear at your next swingers party—treat yourself and your partner to something dazzling!
1. Dress to Impress
Go deep into your closet, and pull out the special occasion outfit. There is no reason to hold back or be shy. But if you are naturally shy, then this is the opportunity for you to step out of your comfort zone. Just try it for a night!
You don’t have to go over the top or be ostentatious. A sophisticated black lingerie outfit or a dapper shirt and jacket might be your way to knock ’em dead. Whatever you do: Dress to the nines, as they say, and use your imagination! Dress to attract your dreams!
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2. Use Clothes to Communicate Your Mood
Let the weather and your mood intertwine to set the tone with what you wear to a swingers affair.
Pull out the fancy wool coat if it’s winter. Wear some leather hotness in the summer if you dare. Is it fall? Maybe you want to radiate an auburn or fire-engine-red look for the evening. Do you think you can pull off an all-white angelic look for a springtime party?
These are all fun thoughts you can have with your outfit, with external adjustments to the party’s offerings as well. You may want to coordinate a special look with your partner.
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3. Leave Something to the Imagination
Swingers parties are never a nudity-first event, unless you’re the headline act for some sexy centerpiece. The best way to bedazzle at a swingers event is to be as sexy as you can… but also be as ALLURING as you can.
Tease and tantalize with your attire. Take guests to the spectacular heights of Cleavage City, but never let them instantly witness the greatness of Nippleville… not immediately, of course.
Leaving something to reveal later is a power move that has its wisdom and place. Hold up, until you can’t anymore!
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4. Sexy Doesn’t Have to be Uncomfortable
There is a fine line between grandiose and tortuous swinger clothing, so don’t wear the one-hour, eight-inch platform pleasers any longer than your ankles can stand.
No need to hurt yourself trying to look sexy to these swingers, especially when a bunch of people are probably going to take their clothes off in a few hours anyways!
Walk the line between sexy and fun, challenging and original… yet comfortable!
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5. Have Fun with Costumes if There’s a Theme
One of the best parts of swingers parties is that they are often planned around hilarious and entertaining ideas, and people sometimes go way over the top in how much they participate in the festivities.
Whether it’s based on a holiday or season, a movie, a decade, or pop culture trend, there are endless ideas that can spark a swingers gathering. So don’t be afraid to have fun with outlandish costumes you wear to the party—you might never have an opportunity to have so much fun dressing up!
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6. Change at the Venue if It Makes Sense
My partner often brings an extra change of swinger clothes to our soirees because she doesn’t always have time to go home after work, and sometimes even a second sexy outfit for a surprise changeup.
You might want to wear your everyday clothes to the swingers party because of the weather or because you don’t want the neighbor’s to see you and wonder what you’re up to. Whatever the reason, do what makes you feel comfortable.
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7. Be Aware of Any Dress Code
Some swingers parties are quite strict about “no nipples, no genitals, no sex” during the beginning and/or near the food table or around any other delicate areas of social contact.
You NEVER want to be the person who violates these rules and has to get a warning, or worse, kicked out of the party.
Be aware of dress codes and time codes for playing—it’s just courteous and considerate. There will always be opportunities for you to have fun, so don’t push the boundaries of good manners and grace.
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8. If in Doubt, Ask Your Host
Completely lost on what swinger clothing to wear at a party? You can always ask your party host or their partner. Swingers are a friendly bunch who want all guests to feel welcome. It’s always better to ask for permission than to beg for forgiveness.
Take things slow, observe and converse in the beginning, and ask experienced swingers what behavior is most acceptable. Ask whatever comes to mind: what a swinger term means, where the condoms and lube are if provided, where you can get water to drink, where the washroom is—anything!
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What swinger clothing will you wear to your first or next swingers party? Do tell.
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