Fantasize often about having a threesome?
Do you imagine climbing into bed with two naked women at the same time? Are you a woman who imagines making love to a woman—and your boyfriend—together?
You’re not alone. The threesome is one of the most common sexual fantasies, if not THE most common fantasy.
Threesomes are something women think about nearly as often as guys. Transgender and nonbinary people enjoy threesomes just as much too. Gay and lesbian threesomes are common fantasies, as are pansexual and straight threesome fantasies. Everyone loves a threesome!
Threeways are routine fantasy fodder and real-life action for all genders and sexual identities.
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What Is a Threesome?
A threesome is when three people get together for sex. It’s a popular theme in movies and erotic literature, and of course in porn.
Classically, the threesome was known as the “ménage a trois,” French for “mix of three.” Lots of sex takes place with two and lots takes place with four or more people at the same time. When it is three in the bed, we usually call it a threesome or threeway.
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What Happens in a Threesome?
Threesome sex can be any kind of sex, including three lovers. What happens during the threesome sex really depends on the lovers involved and what they want to do.
Threesome sex can include making out, undressing, kissing and touching, petting, oral sex, watching sex, performing sex, and more. It can involve two people lavishing attention on one person. It can involve taking turns. It can be a “daisy chain” with one doing something to someone else, and that person doing it the third party.
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Threesomes can involve sex toys like dildos, kinky sex like bondage or domination and submission, or role play.
Threesome sex can be a way for a bisexual, gay, or bi-curious partner to indulge their desires in a context that also includes their main partner. It can be a spontaneous result of three people flirting at a club. It can include any combination of genders.
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Why Do People Have Threesomes?
People have threesomes for many different reasons!
The most common reason they have threesomes is because the idea is sexually arousing or hot—if one naked partner is sexy, surely two naked partners is sexier.
A common reason for threesomes is variety and novelty.
A threesome gives someone a chance to “show off” if they are a bit of an exhibitionist. Voyeurs find much to view in a threesome too.
People who are bisexual but in a relationship may enjoy threesomes as a way to explore their sexuality.
Couples enjoy threesomes as a way to spice up or add variety to their lovemaking, or to revitalize their sexual bond.
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Some people have threesomes because the option presents itself.
Some have threesomes because they want to indulge their partner, or turn their lover on.
Some people have a threesome as a way to incorporate an ex-lover into their current life situation. Or to have sex with another crush.
Some people have threesomes for other reasons, such as vindication or revenge, or to prove they are attractive or liberated or open-minded. Some people have threesomes because they are drunk.
Most people engage in threesomes simply because it is exciting, sexy, and fun.
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7 Different Types of Sexual Threesomes
1. FFM Threesome
For most men, and many women, the female-female-male (FFM) is the most sought after threesome. This is because many guys fantasize about seeing two women together in bed. It is extremely exciting, and pleasing two women at once is like heaven.
FFM threesomes are also the most popular for women because many women are curious about making love to another woman, or love making love to another woman, even if they don’t identify as gay or bisexual.
Many straight couples look for a female third to enjoy occasional threesome romps together.
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2. MMF Threesome
The male-male-female threesome is a staple of porn. It is very arousing for many men to watch a woman getting fucked by another guy. And it is very arousing for many women to have hands and mouths all over her from two men.
The opportunity to take a cock in the pussy and ass or mouth and pussy at the same time gives many women a satisfying feeling of fullness or power. Other women see it as humiliating and enjoy being “used,” and see the MMF as a kind of power exchange.
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3. MMM Threesome
The male-male-male threesome is quite popular among men who love men.
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4. FFF Threesome
Lesbians and other women who love women may enjoy a female-female-female threesome.
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5. MFT Threesome
The male-female-transgender threesome is not uncommon. Many men and women describe themselves as attracted to transgender people, whether trans men, trans women, or nonbinary or genderqueer.
Many transgender or nonbinary people fantasize about threesomes and join a couple that attracts them. Sometimes, the genders are incidental and someone happens to be transgender, male, and female when they hook up for a threesome.
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6. Threesome Mix of Genders and Sexualities
Threesomes can also be three transgender women, three transgender men, two transgender lovers and a man, two trans lovers and a woman, nonbinary, cis, and trans threesomes, or any other combination.
Threesomes take place in fantasy and in real life sex among all genders, orientations, and sexual identities.
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7. BDSM Threesomes
A BDSM threesome is a kind of threeway between three kinky lovers for the purpose of BDSM. Some BDSM scenes are role plays that require three lovers, and other BDSM threesomes are three lovers who are kinky and want to play together.
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