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How to Give Your Wife’s Poly Guy a Handjob

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Dear Jamie,

My wife and I are polyamorous, and sometimes we invite our other lovers into a threesome so we can all enjoy ourselves together. This is usually a bisexual hottie because it turns us on to eat pussy together and we can only do that with a third.

Now we’re talking about inviting one of her boyfriends because I love the idea of watching her get fucked doggie style by a man with a huge cock. Just the thought makes me explode.

She’s willing to fulfill the fantasy for me but says I have to be interactive and not squeamish about touching a guy. She doesn’t want to be in a threeway where I’m sitting on the sidelines watching and nothing else.

She is satisfied by us starting with hand-cock touching and wants me to jerk him off or vice versa, without engaging in penetration or oral.

I’m open minded and willing to explore new territory but really have no idea what I’m doing. Any advice on something so old fashioned—how to give a guy a hand job? – Timothy, 31

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Hi Timothy,

Sounds like you two have a great relationship and an open spirit of adventure in your marriage.

You’ll drive her wild by fulfilling her fantasy, but it will be fun and exciting for you too.

Don’t worry so much about the mechanics or being new to the task, just embark on the threesome with hers and his pleasure in mind and take it as it comes.

Here are a few tips…

Approach that cock with curiosity.

When with a new female lover, even though you may know your way around a pussy, most of us approach with curiosity and a sense of exploration because we know all women are different. Getting to know the first penis in your hand that isn’t attached to you is no different. Be playful and inquisitive. Encourage him to be the same when touching you. Enjoy the strange sensations.

Start with what works for you.

You’re no stranger to jerking off. You can give him a lot of pleasure by using the stimulation techniques that work for you when driving solo.

Ask your wife to direct the traffic.

It’s her fantasy that you guys are part of, so ask her to suggest—or command—a variety of strokes and speeds according to how she imagined.

Don’t be orgasm oriented too soon.

She may ultimately want both of you to explode in each other’s hands, but the high stimulation and potential for nervousness might make one or both of you super sensitive or unpredictable. Proceed with caution and err on the slower side of things so that other mmf threesome activities, like taking turns with your wife, can be a big part of the session too.

Jerk off together.

If either of you are losing your erection to nerves or unfamiliar sensations, or not sure you’re doing each other right, start out by both of you masturbating and observe what he’s doing. She’ll get turned on by that visual too, and when you’re ready, you can switch hands on cocks and start stroking each other off just like you were shown.

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