9 Polyamory Pressures: Kryptonite to Super Connections
Step right on up, folks! Today, we’re talking deal breakers, game enders, buzz-killers!
Polyamory is a sexual and emotional connection system that can have a hundred loose wires and open sockets and available portals for one soul to merge everything with another, but there are certain connections that are eternally off-limits to explore or attempt to solder and rewire. So, do you know the crucial, critical revelations that cut off your romantic connections?
You should! Once it’s all out on the table, you can clearly choose a more healthy option… if it exists! Then, bon appetit. If not… well, that’s a hard one to swallow.
9 polyamory obstacles that can become deal breakers…
1. Long Distance Relationships
“We met online. Loved their profile! Instant crush city. Except they live in a different COUNTRY.” That one gets me every time. I don’t know how some of y’all do it out there. Polyamory helps… but keeping hope alive across the world is one of the most daunting tasks that any romantic souls can dare to endeavour together, I do believe…
2. Ex-Boyfriends/Ex-Girlfriends
“You can get with anyone… except if they have had ANY connections to me. If so, they are off limits!!”
3. Religious Differences
“Nice, nice, hey that’s great… and THAT’S nice! But… oh, she’s a Church of LaVey-christened Satanist? Hmmmm… not so great?”
4. Children
Some people are just not “little people persons”. No harm, no foul. Time is mandatory. Growth is optional.
5. Exploring Sexual Orientation
Some days, you get up, and… that one person just looks… DIFFERENT today. Like “how YOU doing?” different! And, if you love someone, you have to set them free. If they return to you, it was meant to be.
6. Subculture Incompatibility
Some people identify very closely to their particular tribe, whether it be a sports franchise, creative collective or musical fan community. And for some tribes, it’s sacrilegious blasphemy to fornicate with the enemy. A gay parallel might be: two power bottoms probably won’t end up fucking each other, don’tcha know?!
7. Extreme Fetishes
“Whooooa, I’m sorry, but I just can’t shove that thing up into your thing and then put that other thing in there with it, and turn on that next thing you just attached to your nipples. Do you mind if I excuse myself?” Sharing fantasies is great, but they may just not be compatible.
8. No
“If you’re the dessert tonight, but aren’t flavored vanilla, don’t even try to take me to dinner!” No sun without moon.
9. Age-ism/Racism/Sexism
Shit happens. Don’t let it happen in you!
The reasons why people don’t hook up are mysterious, illogical, reasonable, vital, irrational, insane, and almost endless. What enormous little thing has stopped you from connecting with someone?
Let us know! Because knowing is half the battle. Loving is the other half!!
Ready for the obstacle course called love? Find your next poly playmate now at Poly Dating!
In love,
Addi Stewart
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