How to Find Local Pegging Partners

Are you looking for local pegging partners? Are you a woman curious about pegging a partner? Are you a guy who wants to be pegged by a femdom?

For polyamorous singles or couples, finding a partner for pegging might seem tricky, but it can be a fun and hot journey. Whether you enjoy pegging already or are new and turned on by the idea, there are lots of pegging partners waiting to connect. You just have to find them, and we are here to help.

How to Find Pegging Partners in Your Area

1. Put out the vibes.

Your first step to finding a pegging partner is to be ready and available. It is more than likely that you already know, love, or date people who are also curious about pegging or who enjoy it. If no one knows you want to go there, it might not come up.

By opening yourself to the possibility of meeting pegging partners, you’re halfway there already. Use your judgement and common sense about when to bring it up—it’s probably not water cooler talk in your workplace. But when conversations turn to sex, you can make affirmative inferences and share your curiosities and preferences when appropriate.

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If you’re out with the girls and women are talking about things they enjoy in bed, feel free to express your hope to find a pegging partner. If a date mentions they enjoyed pegging, this is the time to confess you do too.

Opening yourself to the universe, so to speak, works wonders simply because you are putting yourself out there. You don’t know when someone will mention a compatible pegging partner for you, or invite you to date their partner, or maybe sparks will fly during the conversation. If no one knows you want to peg, they won’t connect with you in that way.

2. Read the signs.

Conversely, pay attention to others when they are signaling their sexual desires and fantasies. Listen and ask questions when it’s appropriate. Who do you know who is interested in femdom, submission, anal play?

It’s unlikely that someone at the bank or car wash is going to suddenly say they’d love to be your pegging partner. But in your day-to-day connections, conversations, and meetings, as well as on dates, pick up on clues people leave everywhere.

If someone says they went to a swinger fetish party, they could be interested in or around people who are interested in femdom pegging fantasies, for example. If a poly guy you know jokes around a lot about enjoying ass play, approaching him with more questions when the time is right might be reasonable.

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If you’re not paying attention in general, you might miss all kinds of clues to finding a local pegging partner. Listen when people talk about sex and dating!

3. Find a pegging partner at fetish parties and sex clubs.

Whether you’re into the power exchange aspects of femdom pegging, into threesomes, or more interested in different kinds of anal play, meeting people at fetish parties means you’re meeting people who are like minded. They are currently and actively exploring their sexuality.

If you’re playing with people at sex clubs, chatting over drinks, or dancing, conversations will arise about who’s into what and who is looking for different kinds of play. You may find pegging partners just by showing up.

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4. Go to other kinky or poly or kinky poly events.

Not all kink events take place at sex clubs. There are lots of community connection events in the kink community, designed for people to meet each other. These aren’t usually dating or sex events, but networking events or simply sharing space with those with similar interests.

Make friends and connections that will lead to more friends and connections, as well as possible set ups. These could be meetups, brunches, or golfing with other poly peers.

5. Sign up for pegging or anal play workshops.

There are lots of sex ed events online or through your local kink communities and sex shops. Workshops abound on everything from how to give great cunnilingus to fisting to safe rope bondage to pegging. Sign up to meet people who are exploring how to have better sex and see who is open to or interested in anal play, pegging, or female domination.

6. Share a new journey with a current lover.

Your pegging partner might be one of the lovers you are already involved with.

Don’t assume your partners aren’t interested just because they haven’t brought it up, or even if they weren’t interested last year when you brought it up.

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If you’re dating a submissive guy, he may be curious about pegging and become very exciting about the idea. Maybe you have a deep connection with a lover, and experiencing something new together would be an exciting journey. Maybe they weren’t interested before, but now they will be curious because you’ve established more trust and intimacy, or introduced new desires while exploring kinks.

Don’t overlook the most obvious pegging partners—your partners!

7. Join niche online dating sites for pegging partners.

The easiest way to find lovers who are into exactly what you are into is through online dating.

Whether you meet someone with the right chemistry is always a gamble. But dating on niche sites for femdom, anal play, or pegging will introduce you to others who are also into pegging.

Are you a pegging pro or new to the play? Where are you meeting or looking for pegging partners?