You’ve heard it all. The tongue as pancake thing, the Seinfeld swirl. You’ve been around the candy dish a time or two! You know what you’re doing when pleasing a woman.
Maybe you use the same techniques, tried and true, on all your lovers. Or maybe you experiment with your oral sex repertoire, tailor each session to the lady or the vibe of the day.
“Never had any complaints,” you say.
Women do complain, however. It is very hard for most women to communicate their sexual needs or dissatisfaction in so many words. When you’re doing your best, or when we feel our “thing” is not as important as how nature takes its course, we don’t say much.
But we do complain to each other, in forums, over martinis, and jokes.
This doesn’t do a lot of good where it counts—our lovers are the ones who need to know what we need and how we like to be licked and sucked and swirled!
We should help you make us feel as good as we want to feel when it comes to cunnilingus. But even if we find it easy to talk about other areas of the bedroom—kink, timing, orgasm, you name it—asking you to put your mouth where your money is, is very difficult for us. Many of us feel self-conscious about our pussy taste, smell, and appearance, and feel that if you’re already getting up close and personal we shouldn’t rock the boat!
Behind the scenes we do have some cunnilingus complaints and advice. Here they are.
What Women Want You to Know about Going Down
Women want reassurance that you love what you’re doing.
In porn or rom-coms, a woman’s fears about taste and scent are alleviated when the studly beast rips her panties with his teeth and states clearly, “Your scent drives me crazy, I want to drink it all day,” or something to that effect.
Women want to know it’s good for you, not a favor.
Even if we are aware that guys sniff used pantyliners and pay money for secondhand thongs, most of us will never get past this. So do us a favor and assure us you like what you’re tasting!
Women want you to go down more often.
Women don’t want to feel like oral sex for her is a special occasion, or something that happens when you first start dating but later becomes a chore. We might not say so often enough, but it’s a very important part of our sexual satisfaction. That’s because it’s the best way for us to relax and build arousal.
When we are receiving consistent pleasure from your mouth and hands, rather than switching positions for sex or sucking on your dick, the likelihood of orgasm or a great orgasm increases exponentially.
Maybe you aren’t sure whether she cares about it because she never asks for it. Hint: She does.
Women want to be reciprocated.
What gives? We think: we suck your cock, and we want some too.
From now on, understand that cock sucking is a message that we want more.
Women want pleasure that is unhurried and consistent.
Sure, there are times when you give a few slurps in between other variations. But women’s biggest complaint about oral is that we need more time. It takes time just to relax and get into it, and then it takes more time to build up arousal, and then for orgasm. Get comfy! Some women take a long time to come—five minutes to an hour!
We love every variable and experimental suck. But if we’re on our way to orgasm, keep up what you’re doing and maintain your rhythm.
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