The ultimate sexual fantasy for most men, and some women, is the threesome. And now it’s about to happen to you!
There has to be preparation for this new level of sexual adventure, please know and believe it. You can’t just go willy nilly into a threesome and think you will be okay.
The threesome is not like any other public gathering or sexual experience. You have to open up your mind, heart, and body all at the same time—not tear it open beyond comfort, just enough to connect to everyone properly and respectfully to make the threesome a happy and healthy experience for all.
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So I’m going to throw down a few life lessons that will help you prepare for your next threesome. If you do these, plus use basic common sense, you will be fine and be inducted into the threesome hall of fame joyfully and problem-free.
As long as you don’t get anyone pregnant or transmit STIs in this threesome, as long as nobody is offended or hurt by someone’s unexpected words or actions, and as long as nobody is going out in public talking shit about the threesome, then you’ve done what is necessary to avoid sexual wreckage.
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Preparing for a Threesome Psychologically
Tell everyone what you want. Don’t surprise anyone with any secrets in the middle of the sexy times.
To prepare emotionally, communicate with all the people involved, and tell them what you want to have happen to you.
Also, prepare to see wild things and teach yourself to be okay with it! Prepare yourself to maybe kiss someone you never kissed before. Prepare yourself to be exhausted sexually… or prepare yourself to NOT have your gas tank empty.
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You may be more energized than you expected, but everyone ELSE is exhausted! You never know. But prepare yourself emotionally to be okay with WHATEVER either partner is feeling when it’s done.
Prepare to have a new level of relationship with the people in your threesome, and to make space for amazing new memories.
Read: How to Deal with Jealousy in a Threesome
How to Prep for a Threesome Physically
Make your body the presentable thing you want it to be for your sexy dream moment! Get clothes ready, get a haircut, manscape a little, work out or do some stretching—whatever makes you feel your best.
But mostly, prepare to have SAFE SEX, that’s the smartest way to prepare physically. Have all the condoms and lube and whatever other protection that is requested. You do NOT want to be running out of condoms in the middle of a marathon fuck session!
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You want to be safe physically but as long as the condoms don’t break and you don’t have any outbreaks after the threesome, people will feel okay.
Also, it’s very smart to eat a proper breakfast the day of the threesome. Give yourself the energy you’ll need later!
How to Prepare the Space
You want to have enough space to play. If don’t have that, fuck it, have a threesome on a Twister mat if you need to!
You want room for all bodies to roll around and sprawl whilst fucking. Technically, one mattress is all any threesome needs (better than a couch, which can suffice if nothing else is available, but it’s a very limited situation).
Of course, a king-sized mattress would be tops, but most of us don’t have one, so do the best you can. Some of the best threesome sex positions arise from challenging spaces!
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You want to create an atmosphere that is inviting and comfortable, without any want or need for anything. Beyond the bed, a clean bathroom, fresh blankets and towels and sheets, warm lighting, beverages and snacks, and a good music playlist are all important details.
Prepare for a Threesome as a Group
Communication before the act must be as open as possible between everyone. A group chat is a great thing to set up for a threesome, so everyone can text or email each other, and everyone can read what everyone else is saying and sharing and thinking about the situation.
Read: Threesome Rules for Couples
Going out for a dinner together in a non-sexual environment is also a good idea to break the ice and get to know what everyone wants to get out of the threesome experience.
Everyone is going to bring something different to the table… bed or BDSM furniture!
It’s not really possible to talk too much during a threesome set-up, unless you’re talking for months and months and not actually having a fucking threesome, haha!
When all three of you are good to go, set a date, time, and location of your triple-fuck fun times!
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Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy,
Addi “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart
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