I’m sure many of you are familiar with the sexual and romantic benefits that polyamory has to offer, but what about the perks that come from being in a polycule?
A polycule is a group of polyamorous people, all connected through shared relationships. Mine consists of my partner, his wife, and her other partner. Your polycule might be bigger or smaller, and you might be a close-knit polycule or distant group. But none of that changes the fact that your presence in one another’s lives plays an important role in keeping your poly life running smoothly.
Here are some of the amazing benefits that I’ve gained from being part of my lovely polycule.
4 Benefits of Being in a Polycule
1. Extended Family
Marriage and motherhood aren’t for me. I’ve never had the drive to settle down and build a family with someone, but I love that I can spend time with my partner and metamour in the home they’ve built together.
In the five years we’ve been together, I’ve seen their children graduate and leave the nest. I’ve met most of their relatives and enjoyed a solid sense of connection that I had previously lacked. I feel so fortunate in that I have the best of both worlds: a family life and uninterrupted time to myself.
2. Support when Needed
Everyone knows this expression: It takes a village to raise a child. Well, I would argue that it also takes a village to make it through life happily as an adult. A sense of community can arise from many sources, and I just happened to have found mine in the comfort of my polycule.
When one of us is sick or in need of emotional support, the rest of us come together to help. When I was injured a few years ago, my metamour cared for me. When she was having some relationship issues with one of her partners, I listened and helped her through. Our desire to be there for one another is extremely comforting.
3. Individual Skills and Expertise
My metamour is a veterinarian. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve appreciated that fact. My dear senior kitty needs a special wet food that I could never afford if not for the family discount. Three years ago, when my cat needed surgery to remove a bladder stone, my metamour diagnosed her, then referred us to an excellent surgeon.
In turn, I’ve offered my art and writing skills when needed, helping her to craft messages or emails that need to convey a particular tone, etc. The give and take of poly life is really one of the best things about it.
Perhaps the most wonderful part of being in a polycule is the opportunity it provides to form close friendships. When I first embarked on my poly adventure, I had preconceived notions of what those friendships might look like. I had no idea how much we would grow to love one another.
The connections I’ve formed fall somewhere between platonic friendship and fierce protectiveness. We don’t hang out much individually (like regular friends might) but we have each other’s backs no matter what, and that’s so special to me.
Are you part of a polyamory polycule? What benefits would you add?