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Tips for Picking Up a Third for a Threesome

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A lot of couples prefer going the online route of finding someone for a threesome because of the anonymity. I do think it’s a great way to take your time, weed out the unwanteds, and get to know a person before you actually meet face-to-face.

BUT… there’s nothing quite as exhilarating as going out on the prowl, checking possibilities out in the flesh, and bringing someone home that night. Poly couples do this and not always to find an elusive unicorn or a permanent third. They like threesome one-nighters, too! I used to enjoy this challenge when I was in a monogamous relationship, even though we sometimes came home empty-handed. It was the thrill of the possibility that added excitement to our love life.

Tips for Picking Up as a Couple

Plan Ahead
Of course, planning and sex doesn’t sound very hot, but a little chit chat before you go out on the town can prevent awkward and embarrassing moments later. Decide what kind of third you both want (man or woman, age-range), who will approach this person, and what kind of veto rules you want in place.

Sexual Arrangement
Discuss what kind of threesome thrill you want. Will you both engage with your third or only one of you, and if so, will your partner be watching or relegated to another room. Expressing your desires and fantasies beforehand will enable things to run more smoothly.

Have Fun
You can’t be too serious about going out to find a third because there’s always a chance it won’t happen. Clubs, parties, and sex-themed events are your best bets. Look your best and boost each others’ confidence.

Take Your Time
Walking up to a person and asking if they’re DTF probably isn’t going to work. Actually, it isn’t. Enjoy the atmosphere and mingle. Picking up on signs of flirtation and body language will help you know who might be interested in extending the evening.

Safety
Remember, going to someone’s place that you’ve just met can pose a risk and vice versa, so while you may meet a potential third, they may want to get to know you better before they sign up for a threesome, which is completely acceptable. Good things come to those who wait!

Back-Up Plan
You’re not going to always find a threesome on these outings but just the idea, and the scouting with your partner, and the flirting when trying to should be enough to turn the both of you on. So while you may be going home as a couple, there’s no reason to waste your sexual energy.

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