Couples looking for threesomes have a plethora of dating sites to choose from these days. But which threesome dating sites really work?
In my social circles, I see many couples in open relationships who give each other the space they need to explore separate relationships on the side. But it’s also not uncommon for open-minded couples to look for that special third that they can enjoy together, both in and out of the bedroom.
For couples who crave threesomes in particular, I’ve sussed out the most legitimate threesome dating sites for couples. And if you’re a single looking for a couple? Well, these sites are going to be great for you too!
Threesome Dating Sites That Work
Disclosure: I’ve been a full member on all the sites below, and am still active at Find a Threesome and Fling. Once I know a site is the real thing, I may use links that earn a small commission if a member chooses to upgrade. It costs nothing extra, just helps to keep our poly blog alive!
1. FindaThreesome.com
All hail the king of threesome hookups! Find a Threesome is the naughtiest, and by far the largest, threesome dating site of the 4 listed here.
What I love about FindaThreesome.com is the huge number of couples and singles actively looking for each other, and did I already mention how naughty it is? You’ll never get bored between dates with amazing features for flirting like live video chat.
And you know what mainstream dating sites don’t have? Nudity. If you and your partner would like the FULL experience this is the threesome site for you.
2. 3someDating.com
3some Dating has more of a social network vibe than the other threesome dating sites on my list.
You can take a good look around without getting bothered about upgrading, which is nice when you’re new to a site. They have a ton of social features like blogs, photo comments, chat rooms, etc. There’s a lot going on here! My partner and I actually had a good time looking for a unicorn here.
3. Fling.com
You don’t hear much about Fling these days, do you? They’ve been around for ages and are still going strong, and that tells us something. It means mega membership!
Remember, we need a site with LOTS for members, and truly Fling fits the bill. They also have the coveted couple profiles, and don’t mind nudity in the least. So Fling qualifies for my list and as a decent runner-up to Find a Threesome.
We spent some time on this site but didn’t actually arrange any threesome hookups, so I’d love to hear experiences of anyone who has found success here. Get at me in the comments!
4. Alt.com
Okay, this isn’t strictly a threesome dating site by any means. But I thought I should throw in a site for our kinky readers. (I know you’re out there!)
Alt caters to all kinds of kinks, fetishes, genders, and orientations. Because it’s a little more niche it’s not the monster of a threesome site that Find a Threesome is, but I can attest to the fact that the community at Alt is very active.
Join as a couple, mention your desire for a threesome in your introduction title and profile, and enjoy all the dirty pics, stories, and videos that you’ll find in your search for a kinky third.
Why You Should Try Threesome Dating Sites
1. Threesome Sites are Discreet
When it comes to finding that special someone to fulfill your threesome dreams, discretion matters.
Online dating is great for maintaining privacy because it can be done behind closed doors and without exposing too much of who you are in real life. Be sure to use a handle or profile title that expresses what you’re seeking—or what you have to offer—but still protects your anonymity, and never out someone you meet online without their permission.
Revealing too much about yourself (or others) on a dating site can be dangerous, both from a safety and career standpoint, so keep your profile focused on what you’re seeking and avoid too many self-identifying details.
2. You Can Look for a Third as a Couple
Finding a third is hard work. First, you and your partner need to feel comfortable with, and attracted to, the person you choose to fuck.
Second, you have to ensure that everyone is on the same page in terms of desires and expectations. The whole thing requires a lot of consensus and communication, so going online as a couple is really the best way to do it.
Make a date of searching the threesome site together! Use the opportunity to bond as a couple and to get excited about living out your fantasies. Some couples choose to make a joint profile, while others prefer to each have their own. Figure out what works for you, and start from there.
3. You’ll Find Like-Minded Threesome Lovers
Sites like FindaThreesome.com are great places to go looking for a third. This is because they cater to people who want group sex. You can skip the whole, overly detailed preamble required on mainstream dating sites, explaining what you want, and admitting that it might be a little “out there.”
With threesome dating sites, there’s no need to put people at ease about your kinks because everyone is just as freaky as you. You won’t have to read between the lines to guess if someone is adventurous enough to join you and your partner for some hot, dirty fun. You’ll already know they are!
4. You Can Dive Deep into Your Fantasies before You Meet
Online threesome dating offers a prime opportunity to really express yourself—and your needs—fully. Go into lots of detail about your fantasies. Why are you seeking a third in the first place? Do you want to role play a specific sexy scenario? If so, describe it! Put it all out there so that your ideal match can find you. If going that deep on your profile feels scary, leave some hints about what’s to come and encourage those interested to message you.
The relative anonymity of online correspondence makes it easier to open up about sexy things. Build the excitement before the date with steamy sexts! Even exchange dirty pics (with consent of course.) Set the tone for the evening ahead of time, then enjoy yourselves completely in the moment.
How I Choose the Best Threesome Dating Sites
Let me lay down what my criteria was for the above sites to be listed as the best for threesomes.
Couple Profiles are a Must
This means people who want to find a couple can complete an easy search. And couples seeking a third, and you don’t have to create 2 separate profiles and link them together somehow.
Site Size Matters
I’m talking about the number of members here, and the threesome dating sites above have enough popularity that finding a threesome won’t be an impossible dream. We need millions of members, not thousands.
No Spammy Tactics Allowed
The threesome sites above won’t be sending out fake messages from robots. The fact that this even happens on some dating sites is awful, but unfortunately it’s not an uncommon practice on some of the more ‘adult’ sites. Let’s avoid those, shall we?
So those are the sites I can recommend to couples looking for threesomes. More threesome dating sites seem to be popping up every day though. Is there one you’d like me to review? Please let me know, or share your experience on the sites above in the comments.
xo Lola
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