Someone asked the other day if my polyamory lifestyle meant I didn’t need to masturbate!
While it’s great to see that outsiders believe poly people have an endless supply of sex, this isn’t true for everybody. Even with celibate polys on the spectrum, variety and sex are definitely the main attractions for many of us.
I will admit that poly life means I masturbate more than the average horny babe because there’s always something delicious on my brain, and I’m revved up a lot from a hot encounter. To keep the energy flowing and releasing, I do masturbate regularly.
Here are my favorite ways to get off solo.
Triple your pleasure.
Ever notice how much porn is poly?
Even for people who are in one-on-one long-term relationships, their imagination naturally inclines towards variety. A lot of videos focus on threesomes, a woman’s fantasy to make love to women even though she has a man, or experiencing several people at once.
Masturbating to a hot threesome video gets me off fast and helps me relieve sexual tension before I head in to work.
Good vibrations—keep them coming.
When I travel, I might meet a sexy new partner and that’s always an exciting possibility. Other times it means I will be on my own for a few days or more. I love the bullet-sized vibrators that can fit into a wallet or jeans pocket. After a long day of sightseeing, a little clitoral buzzing goes a long way.
Vibrators are amazing when I’m menstruating and don’t want to be penetrated. Did you know that orgasms help a woman cope better with her period? It’s not just about a better mood—the uterus and vagina can be inflamed from extra hormones. The physiological release is an amazing relief that helps us sleep better or helps with pain.
Which dildo to pick today?
I have some hefty-sized plastic playmates, and some slender ones too. It can be amazing to be penetrated by a giant phallus, or to keep things rocking when you’re worn out or finished, but a dildo is vital for a gal when she’s on her own. Having a variety on hand is a win-win, whether you’re coming over to play, or I’m playing alone.
Working out.
From talking with my girlfriends, I know I’m not the only one who plays with myself sometimes after a trip to the gym or a morning jog.
The way I see it, my heart is pumping and my body feels great. I’m already halfway there, so why not take it all the way?
Rub a dub dub.
A boyfriend once got me one of those cute vibrating rubber duckies, and that taught me that bathtime is me time.
This works anywhere—taking a bubble bath to unwind whether on the road, at a boyfriend’s, or with two waiting for me in bed. I’m alone, I’m relaxed, I’m naked.
Self-love in the tub works in a hurry too, when you’re just doing a scrub down before bed or a morning shower before bolting out to work. If you don’t already have one, get one of those detachable shower heads, and see if your girlfriends take longer after! The warm steady stream of water is one of the hottest sex toys ever invented!
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