Looking for tips and inspiration for your next MMF threesome? Try these MMF ideas from a woman who enjoys threesomes regularly with her husband and lover.
A good friend of mine was in a loving, monogamous relationship with her husband of five years. She was thrown for a loop when an old flame, a man she had been profoundly in love with, came back into her life. It looked like she was going to have to make a choice she didn’t want to make.
To her surprise, her husband said he didn’t want to lose their marriage, and he wanted her to be happy about love and sex, not heartbroken. He suggested they all attempt an unusual solution, living as a polyamorous MMF triad.
While both men are heterosexual, they have enjoyed incorporating each other into their bedroom routine, and say that having an open mind has led them to some exciting heights.
I asked my friend for some details about their MMF threesomes, and tips for what positions or acts they enjoyed as a triad.
4 MMF Threesome Tips and Ideas
Here are four MMF threesome tips that might inspire you.
1. Make it All About Her
Marybeth says that the most common way they play is not so different from making love to one man. She says she’s always been “healthily selfish” in bed, and she carries her demanding streak over into the new relationship.
If the attraction between two men is limited or non-existent, a threesome focused on her is the answer. It’s incredibly exciting to be indulged completely and lavished by two guys at once.
“Taking turns” actually amps up your production of testosterone. It’s competition at a biological, evolutionary level. Primates and rats who smell another rat or witness it, or who “wait their turn” have elevated levels of hormones.
Whether a dude is open minded, bicurious, or staunchly heterosexual doesn’t matter. Throwing another guy into the arena increases your sex drive and performance—period. Let her benefit from this awesome phenomenon!
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2. Play the Odd Man Out
Once in a while, one of Marybeth’s partners will “sit this one out.” She can focus on sex with her husband or her boyfriend, one on one, as the other sits on the sidelines and enjoys an uninhibited live sex show while masturbating.
“This is one of our go-to scenarios,” she tells me. “It’s incredibly sexy and my guys report that the orgasm while watching is so intense they sometimes get off two or three times in a row.”
3. Let the Female Dominate
Marybeth says the unexpected MMF arrangement has led to her exploring her dominant streak. “It might never have come up with just my husband,” she admits.
“We were so into each other emotionally—egalitarian and beautiful—but in order to break the initial reluctance of two guys touching each other, I had to start getting bossy. I’m happy to be the focus, but sex is about expanding. Since I had two hot men I love in bed with me, I wanted to start seeing oral and other sexy acts between them.”
This breakthrough was simple when she started calling the shots.
“Ladies, if you want the men in your bed to play out your guy-on guy-fantasies, pull on some rubber pants or a corset and start bossing them around. Works like a charm.”
4. Get Creative with Oral Sex
I love this MMF threesome idea too, where I perform a blowjob back and forth between men. I talk while I’m doing what I’m doing. “Now I’m about to suck your whole nut sack into my mouth.” The competition for both cocks to get the attention of my tongue, lips, and teeth gets really strong.
The hottest part is when both of you stand together, and I open my mouth wide to slide you both inside at the same time. If you thrust in and out slowly, I can keep it up until you both come in my mouth. That’s the cherry on top!
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