When you have multiple lovers, it can be hard to keep track of your shopping list. Or maybe you don’t have a clue what’s on her wish list at all.
We asked poly women about their kinky needs and desires.
Jingle Bell Cock
“Honestly, I’d just love to get some. Sometimes it feels like there’s not enough of our man to go around. Seriously, I’d just love a greedy fix of the basics—lots of naked, lots of cock, lots of affection and touching.” – Lisa, 24
Drummer Boy
“I’m poly, and I’m a lot more kinky than my lovers. So for Christmas this year, I want something for all of us: to hire a male dom to teach my partners how to switch my ass, and use the whips and paddles getting dusty in my closet. Oh, yes…” – Justina, 27
Hurry Down the Chimney Tonight
“My favorite sex thing is to be taken by surprise, totally unaware. My partners all have keys to my apartment, and they have signed my consent form to wake me by taking me. It’s really not that kinky since we’re talking about lovers, not strangers, but the element of surprise and the tension it creates around power and excitement really turns my crank.” – Bea, 32
Blue Christmas
“One fantasy I’ve never indulged with my male or female partners is my desire to withhold or force them to wait. Part of it is being embarrassed I guess or not having confidence. I’ve been reading about kink, even though I’m not particularly kinky, so I was surprised to find out that this was a thing and a whole scene.
The porn where the guy wants to have blue balls from being so horny and being denied orgasm actually makes me come without being touched.” – Angie, 29
We Three Kings
“We don’t have group sex scenes very often anymore. As the novelty and fresh thrill of being poly turns into a long-term lifestyle, some of us fall into the same trap as any other relationships—predictable sex. I have three long-term partners because once upon a time I couldn’t choose between them. On a whim, I asked if we could all be together, and they said yes. We have five kids and while it’s definitely an unorthodox family, it’s also not too different than anyone else’s arrangements.
Why it worked for us is that all my guys love my dominant streak. When I commanded them not to stray, even with the competition, they stayed. We used to have hot scenes where I tied them all up and left them there, helpless and hard, for hours. I would love to have a kinky group scene again.” – Miriam, 45
Silent Night
“It’s a pretty benign fantasy, but I love the intensity of fucking in total silence and darkness. It’s easier to do with two people and almost impossible with three, but I love it when my lover indulges me.
I lost my virginity on the sofa in a tiny apartment where my parents were asleep behind a paper-thin door and could come in at any time. We didn’t even have a TV then or anything, and my boyfriend and I did it in the dark without making a sound. The first time I ever felt those feelings, of being touched, of being taken to the brink, of being turned on… those were the conditions, and it’s still amazing.
Thankfully, my partners are creative and flexible and adventurous and I know this will come true over the holidays! – Zaina, 30
Keep those home fires burning, baby!
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