Most size tip blogs I write are for guys with penises on the smaller side. Average or above average guys wouldn’t consider there is such a thing as “too big.”
But if you’re one of those rare dudes whose dick is so big that it is “too big,” you know that good things come in small packages… the oversize cock has some problems of its own.
Not everyone can take it.
The vagina is elastic and can stretch to birth a baby, but there are a lot of hormones making that happen—and a lot of tearing.
Your huge dick is not as a big as a watermelon. But even if a woman’s vagina “can” take it, it might take a lot of work and a hyper amount of arousal.
“I have NEVER had sex without using a tub of lubrication, and there were times I had to go without sex because we forgot to bring lube. It’s uncomfortable for my wife and more often than not, my orgasm is spent jacking myself against her after we fool around. It’s better than nothing, but it’s a long way from the fantasy most guys have about having a big dick,” says Gary.
Gary’s other partner is much taller and larger and can take him more comfortably, but not without some lube.
Erections don’t always function properly.
Oversized guys can have a lot of trouble with erections.
“There is literally not enough blood flow in the most virile, fit, youthful version of myself to have a proper erection,” Dean confesses. “I used cock rings and warming creams when I was twenty to make it work, but even so, holding it up was tricky. And now that I’m a bit older, it slaps around at three quarter way even at my horniest. It can be hard to insert. It’s throbbing, but it can’t support itself!”
Forget about anal.
Anal is painful if your dick is too big.
“My girlfriends both love anal—can you imagine being that lucky?” Michael says. “But I don’t get much benefit from it. Becky says it’s too much of an ordeal to go there, and Samantha asks me to use a butt plug to fuck her ass instead. What about me? I have to grin and bear it because I wouldn’t want this thing in my ass.”
Oral sex is also limited.
Our mouths can make a wide range of sensations, licking, slurping, sucking, nibbling.
The guy with the average dick is never thinking, “Wow, this feels great. If I had a bigger cock, I wouldn’t experience this range.” He’s wondering what he’s missing.
The grass isn’t always greener. “My partners only suck me if I promise to stand still. I endlessly watch porn where the woman begs the man ‘fuck my mouth!’ and takes it while he jacks it. I would just love to move back and forth a bit. But it’s a lot more pleasant for her to lick it like a lollipop than take it hard in her mouth.”
It’s a drawback, and the solution is simple acceptance of using other techniques, not deep oral thrusting. Sorry, guys.
Condoms can break more easily.
When you’re polyamorous you want your partners to feel secure knowing you always have safe sex with everyone.
“That’s great, but when condoms break or don’t fit properly, it can be annoying and difficult and people can get the wrong idea,” says Ethan.
You may never have worried about condoms not fitting or being so uncomfortable that you felt like the circulation to your dick was being cut off. You may never have experienced the trauma of a broken condom and the fear of pregnancy or HIV that can follow. Since the most important part of sex is safe sex, this is no laughing matter.
The solution is to always stock your own condoms from a trusted supplier, ordering an appropriate size and thickness and quality that you can trust, and never being caught empty handed.