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Sex Tips for Men with a Smaller Penis

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The biggest mistakes poly men with a smaller cock make is not having sex at all, or having less sex, or not having the kind of sex they want.

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If you’re waiting for your penis to get bigger, you’ll be waiting a long time. If you’re a younger man, realize now that it’s better to confront your worries and get on with your sex life. If you’re an older guy, don’t let your worries hold you back any longer. Make up for lost time. Instead of waiting for the nonexistent magic pump or potion, adopt a pragmatic attitude with yourself and your partners to ensure you are all having fun and feel satisfied.

Come to terms with the fact that you’re not hung like a horse.

Accepting your size and changing your attitude is a much better strategy than waiting for it to be “fixed.”

I get it, guys, I really do—you wanted it to be bigger. While some woman do want guys with big dicks, most don’t care, and the women who do care actually care more about other things in bed. Your best bet is to adopt the attitude that even though you wish it was bigger, it’s not, and you deserve to have and to give great sex.

Develop your lovemaking skills.

You can’t grow a foot-long dick—no matter what those ads promise—but you can practice the art of love, work on your personality, lighten up with humor, be respectful of women, be unselfish in bed, be adventurous, be attentive, be patient, be affectionate.

Realize women harbor their own insecurities.

Most women wish they were thinner, younger, had breasts that didn’t sag, had less pubic hair, had tighter vaginas—the list goes on. It’s ridiculous, and yet all these people manage to have sex.

Get friendly with dildo play.

One of my lovers who is on the smaller side confessed his worry was that I would never feel “filled” and that he knew women loved a sense of fullness or accommodating a big cock. So, get a big dildo.

Incorporating dildos into your poly sex life, whether it’s one-on-one or three in a bed is a great way to add variety and stamina. It’s also thrilling for me to fuck my own pussy while you watch, or put on a little girl-on-girl show for you.

Don’t worry that “you” are not the one satisfying her when you use a dildo. Her pleasure is still coming from you.

Experiment with other toys too, like penis extensions.

There are all kinds of gadgets. Don’t be intimated—have fun instead. Why not wear some kind of sleeve that goes over your cock? Some make a thicker shaft and others are penis extensions that can add interesting sensations for both of you.

Focus on fun, not your size.

Women always rank “sense of humor” high on that list of what they look for in sex and love. It is way more important to most women than “six pack” “rich” “hot” or “big cock” on a dating profile.

If you can make a woman laugh, if you can laugh at yourself, if you can be silly and lighthearted about her worries too, you’re going to have a much better time in bed.

Choose deep-penetration positions.

Think about the mechanics of the positions you choose. If she’s on top, put a cushion underneath your butt to maximize your depth. Stand or kneel behind her for more control of your thrust… most women love this because they can feel you inside more.

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