Many men think that women are tired of the missionary position, that they constantly need to be shifting and bending us into new sex positions. Think again!
Call me old fashioned, but man on top is my favorite position. Trust me, I’ve done it every which way, and I’m not limited and never will be. I’m not self-conscious, and I don’t worry about my ass looking too big from behind or any other reason. When it comes to my own pleasure and preference, this is the best way. – Rebecca, 32
I love riding a guy into the sunset. But nothing comes close to the pleasure I feel when he takes those reins back and drives it home. – Gabby, 24
My husband loves to watch my young boyfriend stick it to me doggy style. But when he’s not there, I beg my hubby to fuck me the classic way. There’s just something about the kind of pressure of his weight on you as he penetrates, and wrapping my legs around his hips while he thrusts. I feel like I’ve died and gone to heaven. – Karen, 47
Full disclosure: for me personally, I crave variety and love a session that includes several positions. There are draws for all the main sex positions, and having that variety at hand helps satisfy all kinds of sexy moods and fantasies.
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What’s Wrong with the Missionary Sex Position?
But the missionary position does get a bad rap, as if it’s boring, or too heteronormative, or sexist, even. And none of that is true!
Some of this baggage comes from social history, when wives were relegated to the man-on-top position and anything else was for sluts. The Catholic church often preached that man on top was the only acceptable sexual position if you wanted to get to heaven. This was because animals mated doggy style. Other religions forbade various positions and oral sex or anything other than this style. Not all of them, however—in the good old days, you hoped you were born in India into the amazing cornucopia of Kama Sutra positions.
That’s part of why the missionary position is called so. And it’s why it’s considered by some to be sexist. But let’s not let them ruin sex further! There are many reasons why women love man-on-top sex.
Why Women Love Missionary
Face-to-Face Intimacy
Doggy style is great for a quickie or a hot hookup, but it won’t satisfy the needs of lasting lovers to be close to each other. Sometimes it is the full-body, head-to-toe experience we crave with our spouses or our long-term lovers. Man on top is very intimate.
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Kissing Is Important
In this same vein, kissing is very important, and it’s easy to kiss while making love in the missionary position. Kissing is essential to intimacy and for some women, to sexual arousal, so man-on-top loving works great from this perspective.
Read: Why Kissing Leads to Better Sex
Women Love to Be Taken
Nature isn’t always politically correct, but who cares? If she’s given the green light and said so, then go ahead and ravish her already.
I was on a date with a really nice guy and he would literally pull back and say, “Are you comfortable if I now squeeze your hip over your jeans?” and “Can I open your mouth with my kiss in the next few minutes?” Let me explain that I was there for the purpose of hooking up!
Of course a lover is free to change his or her mind anytime during an encounter. Of course it’s considerate to make sure everyone is comfortable and consenting. But let’s listen to women and not leave out their voices—it’s nearly unanimous that women love to be taken, ravished, overcome.
It’s just not the same if the only kind of sex we have is you lying there quietly while I mount you. If I have agreed to sex with you, I love you to climb on top of me, push my legs open and take it.
Read: Ravish
Orgasm Is Easier for Some Women in Missionary
Woman on top is an amazing place to come, that’s true. But the idea that man on top isn’t how me or millions of women come is false. It’s easy for her to touch herself this way while receiving your cock, or to angle her body in different ways, legs up, hips up, legs wrapped around you, leg around your shoulder—in a way that makes it easier for her to climax.
Missionary Works for Different Abilities
Yoga and acrobat positions are so much fun, but what do you do if you have limited flexibility? Aging, illness, disabilities, or differently matched body types can cause make complicated positions untenable. So what? Go for it old school! Never stop having sex because of age, arthritis, weight, accident, illness (of course you might have to pause temporarily but never STOP). Sex is for all people and all bodies.
Read: Advice for Dating a Woman with a Disability
She Sees You in Action
Man on top sex is not boring. You should see the view! I get so hot watching a man’s hips thrust into me. Seeing him kneeling before me is a goddess moment—wow. I can see his chest, arms, biceps, face, and every expression. I love looking at a man’s navel, his thatch of pubic hair, the root of his cock between us, the full monty. I have a few mirrors in my bedroom, so I can often see his ass, back, and shoulders as well.
Do the women in your life love missionary? Please share in the comments!
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