How to Have an Orgy

Want to have an orgy but now sure how to make it happen?

Having an orgy is not an impossible task, but it does require some serious focus, dedication, open-mindedness, and a sense of adventure!

An orgy requires a few basics: location, safety protections, five or six or more people who want to get naughty together! And let’s not forget the mental and emotional preparation that is needed.

3 Ways to Have an Orgy

1. Plan and Host Your Own Orgy

Planning an orgy requires a home or venue that is big enough to house a group of adults as they mingle and get down together.

You’ll want a mattress or two, clean sheets and towels, a bunch of condoms, perhaps a few toys, and a group of people who want to fuck.

Some people risk having orgies outdoors, and it’s not impossible. But just to be on the safest side of the law, please have your orgies indoors, away from random peepers who don’t consent to seeing such wonderful group activities!

Plan your own orgy in your own private space, and you can do all the things you want in there that are legal and safe to do with people!

Read: 8 Group Sex Rules for Orgy Etiquette

2. Find Orgy Playmates Online

Finding orgy lovers online is fun and you can look from the comfort of home. You will find all kinds of new worlds of people you never knew to fuck and frolic around with.

You can also find weirdos, creeps and even worse, so be careful, and don’t be one of those people, either. Online is a total clusterfuck of professionals and amateurs in the world of sex and sexual communities.

Read: How To Find Group Sex Online

Some people take orgy dating more seriously than others. Some are dependable and others flaky—you never know what you will get when you reach out online. But if you’re like me, you’re an awesome person, so someone else finding YOU online is like someone finding ME online, and that means their sexual possibilities just got much better!

3. Attend Sex Clubs and Parties

There are usually sex clubs in every major metropolitan city in North America, and if not, there are always kind of underground gatherings in your community that are happening right underneath your nose!

There are suburban households hosting sex parties and swingers parties, and these are great places to meet people who are into orgies and into The Lifestyle, as they swinging.

Sex clubs are more consistent and more publicly standardized to be safe, so that’s a great place to start. They are full of sexually adventurous folks wherein you can find the right person who aligns with your needs and desires.

I frequented a local sex club for a good decade before taking a break and starting up my own sexy parties. You’ll find your way.

Read: How to Find Group Sex Parties and Events

3 Tips for Having an Orgy

To have an orgy you must be able to navigate the unexpected, use common sense, and have safety contingency plans to handle any situation that might come up.

You NEVER know whose body will do what or what person will try something new, or you have to deal with god-knows-what after something unexpected happens. You must be ready!

1. Prioritize Consent and Communication

Have a group chat with all the orgy participants if you can. Everyone should be as comfortable with each other as they choose to be collectively before the orgy. And during. And after. But especially before!

Safety is the MAIN thing to provide in an orgy, because there can be extremely unsafe situations that transpire in a sexually-fluid and sharing-encouraged environment.

Condoms, lube, clean sex toys, wet wipes—all the safe stuff you can think of is appropriate to bring to an orgy. No muss, no fuss, no regrets, no stress. Talk to each other about what you want to use when it comes to safe sex. Everyone discussing it at the start is smart.

Read: Tips for Your First Group Sex Experience

2. Have Protection and Lube

No protection protocol—no orgy. It’s just basic smarts. Condoms are the main mode of protection in most sexual situations, and I’ve been to orgies with thirty condoms on the ground and furniture. (Yeah it’s kind of gross but also kind of amazing, LOL).

So make sure everyone has agreed on the safety measures. All condoms? All tested? A mix of both? Do whatever you consenting adults choose to do together. Just make sure everyone is happy with the boundaries of the orgy going forward.

Some people might be on The Pill and/or other contraceptive, and that’s cool. But make sure that all kinds of barriers to pregnancy are in place before multiple people arrive with intentions to ejaculate or penetrate the various entrances available. Furthermore, please bring more than enough lube for everyone. That’s just good manners.

Read: 5 Ways to Practice Safe Sex in Group Play

3. Manage Your Expectations

I always go in with a balanced set of desires: hope for everything that’s meant to happen and to be happy if nothing happens. Never put any stress or pressure on yourself or anyone else in an orgy, and accept whatever happens as what is meant to be.

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Sometimes you get extra lucky and experience even more than you expect, and sometimes you get a stomach problem because you ate something wrong for dinner and it messes up your body before your highly anticipated orgy.

Do not try to do too much, nor do too little. Just do what you are naturally capable of contributing, or joyfully offer all you can manifest. And if you can’t do very much on a particular day, it’s okay. There are more orgies to attend, organize and enjoy. Fuck around and find out!

So there you have it, the basics on throwing an orgy. Read a book or two on sex parties, search some online articles, and even ask friends and strangers!
You will figure out your best way to make your orgy dream come true!

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Best of luck,
Adhimu “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart