Even experienced poly daters will feel a few nerves before a first date. And if you’ve been chatting a long time with a potential partner you met online, you may feel anxious because you’ve built up an expectation of how you imagine things will be. Not to worry, I’m going to share some of my favorite pre-date stress relieving tricks. Try these out!
Eat and Drink
Whaaat? you might say. Yes, even if you’re going for dinner, eat a little something so you don’t get the starving grumps, or the low blood sugar dizziness. By drink, I mean water… hydrate well, especially if you’re planning on a few cocktails. Tipsy on a first date isn’t very attractive.
Whenever I go out on the town, date or otherwise, I like to play music when I’m getting ready. Something upbeat, sexy, or silly can calm any nerves you might have and help to put you in a good mood.
Groom for the Gal
Of course, a shower is essential and because the grooming habits of men are so individual, you’ll just want to make sure everything is trim and tidy… no dangling nose hairs, please! Brush your teeth and trim your nails (toes, too! you never know how intimate things might get).
Don’t wear the ball cap to a fancy restaurant or a shirt and tie to the park. I always put comfort first, rarely wearing something new that I have to fuss with on a first date. I even have a lucky dress that I like to wear… so far, so good!
I always plan a trip to the gym right before a first date. It never fails to put me in a great mood, boost confidence, and steady the nerves. If you’re not a gym rat, try a few push-ups or some relaxing stretching at home.
Never be late on a first date, otherwise you’re sending the message that she’s not worth your time – bad first impression. Keep an eye on the clock and give yourself plenty of time to get to your destination. If you arrive a bit early, even better.
Cash on Hand
Call me old fashioned, but I think a man should pay for the first date. Chivalry isn’t dead. After, if things continue, splitting or alternating who picks up the tab is cool. Bring cash, so you don’t have to worry about looking for a bank machine or which credit card venues accept.
Remember: When you’re prepared, you’ll start the date off right, and not have to sweat the small stuff.
Polys: Any pre-date tips or rituals you adhere to, want to share?