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5 Tips for FMF Threesomes

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For some people, it’s the Holy Grail of sex: FMF threesome. But for some guys, it’s just too much to concentrate on. I’ve heard men say they don’t have the co-ordination to satisfy two people at once, that it requires too much energy.

The energy flow is definitely different in an FMF, and it can require more communication to hash out the details of balancing everyone’s requirements and needs. Let me share some basics that will help you make your next threesome hookup the best it can be.

5 Tips for FMF Threesomes

1. Communicate Boundaries

Talking enough to make everyone feel comfortable is the CORE of every healthy sexual encounter. It may take five minutes of talking together. Or will it may take five weeks of texting, talking and building trust. All this will include everyone’s emotional and sexual boundaries. Not everyone wants anal! You’ll also have to decide on a location, a safe space, and the date all of this will go down.

And then there’s the whole aftermath of this amazing smash. You don’t need to know everyone’s innermost feelings, but saying nothing is a recipe for disaster. So put up some communication barriers for your collective emotions. And THEN finally ask: anal or na? Ha ha!

Read: Tips for Your First Group Sex Experience

2. Divide Your Attention

Whatever you’ve learned about threesomes from Hollywood or porn, forget it. You need to FOCUS on the moment you are in. It’s not time to lay back and be the king—it’s time to be one-third of the best pyramid ever made. The women may not be into each other, and if that’s the case, then you will be the bridge between bodies, and that can be very fun as one rides your dick and the other rides your face, maybe.

There are a number of options to go with, and if the women are into some touching and exploring of one another, you REALLY can create the most passionate human pyramid possible! The best FMF occurs when everyone is enjoying something, and everyone is connected (not just physically).

Read: 5 Things Group Sex Porn Gets Wrong

3. Connect with Creativity

Limitation only expands options. Only got one penis? Add a strap-on. Got no strap-on? Use some fingers creatively. Fingers not feeling frisky? Hope you got a strong tongue! Hopefully kissing is on the table, and in that case, you can really connect on a deeper level, even though there can be ALL kinds of connections that are different than kissing that also connect bodies in special ways.

Try fucking doggy style while the woman in front is performing oral sex on the other woman. That’s another very special kind of kiss! How you play will all depend on those boundaries you previously put in place, but with three there are always so many more ways to explore.

Read: Rediscover Kissing in Your Poly Relationships

4. Prepare and Be Prepared

If you’re hosting, provide a warm, cozy, inviting space. And don’t forget the condoms. You can never have too many!

Two women having sex means the possibility of having to possibly navigate two menstrual periods… possibly! I have no issue with having sex while someone is on their period, but it’s a little more complicated in a threesome. Dark towels have done wonders since high school though, ha ha. A woman will tell you if she needs anything or if it’s just not working for her. Listen and follow her lead.

Read: Everything You Need to Know about Period Sex

5. Be Discreet and Respectful

Your wonderful, awesome FMF experience can BEST be cherished if preserved in a memory jar that does NOT get opened all the damn time! Maybe once every few months you crack it open and take a look, maybe share it with one trusted friend, and then you screw that lid on tight and put it back on the shelf for safe keeping.

An FMF is a rare occurrence, and if you’re the lucky M in the middle and want more fun there, you best learn how to keep your mouth zipped! Be a gentleman, and keep it close to the vest. Thank your gracious lovely lady friends for the wonderful experience, and it may happen again!

Have you had the wonderful experience of being in an FMF threesome? 

Sincerely,
Addi “Malcolm Lovejoy” Stewart

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