The Bermuda Love Triangle of Rihanna Fenty, Chris Brown, and Karreuche Tran
Unless you live on the moon (and get no internet service there, too) you might have heard about a guy named Chris Brown.
Whoa, whoa! Don’t shoot the messenger. This isn’t really about the blog-feeding drama regarding his rollercoaster relationship with Rihanna. Well, it is, but it’s also about his relationship with Vietnamese fashion model Karreuche Tran as well, and what this menage-a-trois love connection means in 2013 to society at large.
I would like to offer a thus-far unseen piece of social commentary about ‘KarrChRihanna’, for all the impressionable young minds and hearts watching the Twitter/Facebook/nightclub/hotel/vacation spot/hotel/and-more-Twitter drama. As it has been twisting, turning, unfolding, and exploding in our voyeuristic faces over the past year or so, a couple new revelations deserve to be acknowledged.
A few months ago, America’s favorite Grammy Award-winning R&B pariah put out an intriguingly honest video:
“You share history with somebody, then you tend to fall in love with somebody else, it’s kinda difficult. Is there such thing as loving two people? I don’t know if it’s possible, but for me, I feel like that, you know? Y’all might be like “What the fuck is he talking about right now?!” But… I‘m just saying! I’m being real. I don’t want to hurt either or. I’m just me. I‘m not trying to be a player or dog, none of it. My mama raised me different. I just care. Too much, sometimes. I don’t know…”
And thus sparked the dynamite that blew the lid off one of the worst kept secrets in modern celebrity Hollywood romance. But, the real problem wasn’t the fact that a man confessed his simultaneous love for two women. The problem was more about how this intriguing episode of “Young, Wild, Foolish, Modern Love” failed to seize the gloriously ripe opportunity to educate the masses about something that a lot of musicians, supermodels, and celebrities secretly have a lot of experience with: polyamory.
To have the complete context to comprehend the successful failure that was The ChRihannaTran-Wreck, you may have to dig through a small mountain of bitter, snarky, and witty responses, interviews, tweets and public reactions to various physical and emotional developments involving all parties. I ain’t saying no names, but posting pictures of cinnamon rice cakes with sunglasses and hoop earrings, having fans make fake Facebook posts about “ I’m Angeline [sic], you’re Jen. C’mon you see where Brad is at” if not revealing worse statements, and the like, are not activities conducive to a healthy polyamorous relationship, or even cordial friendship.
But amidst the hurtful, hilarious, hate-filled lashings sent back and forth between Rihanna and Karreuche over Chris, there were many insightful jewels to be taken out of the whole situation. Regarding her semi-controversial decision to re-unite with Chris Brown after his infamous vicious physical assault on her on Grammy night in 2009, Rihanna recently told Rolling Stone:
“I wasn’t going to let anybody’s opinion get in the way of it. Even if it’s a mistake, it’s my mistake. After being tormented for so many years, being angry and dark, I’d rather just live my truth and take the backlash.”
Whether Ms. Fenty knows it or not, this is a mindstate that polyamorists must adopt to survive, and it was a relief to see her courage be articulated in such a mature manner. Regardless of the consequences of fighting the psychic lightning storm ignited nationwide by an army of aghast Twitter-bombing, flag-waving, Chris-Brown-crucifiers, passionate love must thrive against all odds, opposition and obstacles. Polyamorists live and breathe those words: “I wasn’t going to let anyone’s opinion get in the way of it.” Especially considering there can be as many types of polyamory as there are people, as opposed to the relatively rigid rules and regulations of monogamy. “I’d rather just live my truth and take the backlash.” may also be a statement familiar to ‘closet’ polyamorists, who are only recently starting to be able to have an open conversation about their “alternative sexuality choices” in a nation created with a monogamous, heterosexual, conservative Christian foundation like North America. Chris Brown courageously stated the same idea about “suffering” from feeling multiple loves (albeit less articulately) in his short video.