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First BDSM Experience: The Name’s Bond, James Bondage!

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Having an open, adventurous, polyamorous mind has introduced me to so many wonderful things. And I’ve been able to have the best conversation starter recently. When some people ask: “What have you been up to lately?”, I’ve been saying: “Well… I did my first BDSM session, and I loved it!!” This usually inspires gasps and curiosity, or just gasps and polite avoidance. I love when I get to tell this story. So here we go!

In the last three weeks, I lost my first-base virginity in a world that I had only admired from afar for quite some time without really exploring from a first-person perspective. But that all changed at the Naked Sauna that I visit every Monday when a wonderful couple of radiantly smiling people entered the changing room. The woman was wearing a black-leather spiked collar that looked perfectly in place snuggled around her neck, and the man was holding a bag of adult goodies that would not be allowed in a variety of public environments. Without much delay, they got to partying: she pulled out a leather flogger with about twenty one-foot long tails and a metal ball-bearing handle as a butt-plug (!!!), a paddleboard, a thick wooden pole, and a whoooole lot of purple rope, among other advanced tools of the BDSM trade. I was extremely intrigued by where all this potential creativity could go!

She asked if I would like to try anything… and I said “Why not? Hell yes, let’s do this!” I joined the company of a cute, young, brunette lady who had been flogged before, as we both bent over a desk and let this dominatrix whip our asses and thighs with the flogger, as her partner watched and laughed and gave suggestions to make it more fun. I wasn’t as much of a pain junkie as the shapely, young lady beside me, who was begging for more intense whippings, so I gracefully bowed out after a few minutes of flog action. I felt tender and touched in a way I had never known before and loved that I could trust the dominatrix to guide me into that world so gently, yet oh so viciously.

She then asked if I wanted to be tied up. And I said “definitely yes.” But little did I know that being tied up WOULD FEEL SO ABSOLUTELY FUCKING WONDERFUL!!! I mean, they don’t give this information to your average young male growing up in Canadian society, you know? But I’m telling you all: the bondage session I had with that amazing dominatrix was one of the most sensual, satisfying, special, spiritual, and stunning sexual experiences I have ever enjoyed in my life! And there wasn’t any penetration, no severe intensity, no ordering commands, or topping and bottoming in any way. She just slowly and safely guided me through the process of wrapping my entire body in her lovely purple rope as she knitted what was ostensibly a full-body bathing suit around my naked self. Starting around my neck and shoulders, moving down across my solar plexus and belly, then wrapping around my back and to the front again before descending to my genitals (where they SNUGLY cradled my package, but not painfully) and up my buttocks and around my back. The entire process took about twenty minutes, but I would not have minded it being double the length. By the end, it felt like a hundred women’s slender rope fingers were passionately embracing my entire body, and I could not believe I was officially in rope bondage.

I had to document the occasion, so the dominatrix’s partner used his cellphone and took about twenty pictures of me in one of the most shocking outfits I have ever worn in my life! Standing around naked, touching each other’s bodies in trust-building ways, while exploring new arts and subcultures of sex and power, all while discussing life, love, society, politics and religion made for an experience that cannot be overstated in its sacred value. I even sent the naked pictures of me in rope bondage to my mother, and she admitted they were “very artsy” and “worth making into a coffee table book for very special clients”, ha! It was one of the most liberating, playful, and satisfying semi-sexual fantasies that has ever come true for me, and I thank both my dominatrix and her partner for sharing their toys, trust, and teachings with me! We have done two more bondage shoots since the first, and I even photographed one of their VERY intense bondage and S/M sessions, where the man was very much on the receiving end of all the punishment. And I have never ever heard a man express such sounds of satisfaction, I kid you not.

So yeah, now I’m into BDSM, dammit! Well, more bondage than anything else thus far, but I’m totally a guy who has done that kind of thing. I’ve had my own ‘50 Shades of Grey’ moment like millions of women across North America, but it wasn’t reading it in a book, it was getting my ass roped up like a tasty sex snack for a woman thirsty and hungry for my deliciousness! Oh, do I ever wish I could make my bondage shots my Facebook profile pic. But I don’t think people are ready yet…

Either way, I suggest you explore a fantasy you’ve never known. You just might love it way more than you ever dreamed possible…

Always in love,
Addi Stewart

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